So my ex and I broke up in early september. She started dating another guy within a week. I contacted her middle of october and we started talking again. We said we loved each other and she said she wanted to try again. Suddenly after 3 weeks she changes her mind from nowhere saying she wants to break up for real this time.
2 weeks later I see her holding hands with another guy. They are now in a relationship and have been since then I think. They are pretty serious. They even went on a vacation together after one month of us breaking up. Now her and her whole family treats me like I was some sort of abusive maniac. I did not chase her or anything. I only wrote to her after we broke up asking how she could do this after saying she loved me and wanting to try again but she didn’t answer and blocked me on facebook. After that I did not contact until seeing they had been on a vacation together. I texted her telling her how I thought she was false that she could do that and move on so quick and that I wanted her out of my life. I did not expect or want a response. I just needed to let her know.
A month later I accidentally called her while deleting her number. It only rang once. But the day after her father calls me threatening to call the police and tells me to stay away. I don’t understand. I have taken care of her for 4 years. Never let her spend a dime of her own money, always driven her to where she needed to go. Never been abusive. Yet now after only contacting 3 times in 4 months time, one of the times by mistake, they are threatening to call the police? Why are they treating me like this? Why would she even run to her dad after only a missed call? After 4 years she can’t even acknowledge my existance or respect me.
I can’t say I fully understand you, because my ex and I weren’t together for as long as you and your ex. But I still loved her (heck, I still do) with all my heart.
So what I can say is that I feel for you. It’s hard for me too. Sometimes I get so sad that I hate ever meeting her. Fair enough, I made my share of mistakes, but so did she and I didn’t deserve what I received in the end. I treated her with respect and always stood by her side, supported her when she needed it most. In the end I never used any profanity, but all I got from her was humiliation, name calling, finger pointing and from a mental standpoint - border-line abusive behaviour… And still, it’s me who’s the bad guy in the end. I’m sorry to say this, but some people are just s**t…
She may have told her father something completely different, maybe just to make you look bad in front of him. In your heart you know the truth, and that’s what really matters.
What I am doing right now, is full NC for another month and a half. Then I’ll see where everything goes. If she responds in a civil way and is ready to talk like an adult, then I will forgive and forget, and maybe we can at least be friends if nothing more. But I’m not going to stand for her BS anymore! And neither should you. But right now, all you can do, is to just leave her alone. If she’s smart, then she’ll figure out what she lost.
What I don’t understand is, if she made some story up and told her father, why would she? I contacted 3 times over the course of several months. One of which was by mistake. We were each others first love and first sexual partners. How can she even find it in herself to tell lies about me or whatever she is doing to have her father feel like he needs to threaten me. I am already hurt and broken from the break up. She already pretends like I don’t exist and has a new boyfriend. Why does she feel like I deserve more crap?