She left me for her co-worker

Here’s a bit about my back story.

My ex-girlfriend of 1.5 years left me for her co-worker. She told me that on my birthday. The main reason being is I never talked about marriage. To be fair, i wanted to propose to her on V-Day, which happens to be 4 days after my birthday. It crushed me like hell because there’s another man involved.

We texted for some time before i realised that it hurt me like hell and i decided to go for NC for three weeks. Before the NC, she told me that this was the most stupid decision of her life and that other guy pushed her to end it with me on my birthday. What a douche, but I understand that’s her choice. She told me that she’s deeply hurt too because doing all this to me, which I take it as at least, she cares for me if not loved me.

After that 3 weeks of NC, i sent her a letter telling her about how i really felt and the things that i learned about myself during the 3 weeks. She responded negatively by telling me that I have a good heart and she doesn’t think she’s good enough for my heart. She told me that she still thinks about me everyday but she keeps reminding herself of the stupid that she did to me and she’s still with that guy. To my surprise, i am not hurt by that news.

One good news is she agrees for a meetup. I don’t know what to expect from this meet-up. If I’m being honest, i take it as a good chance of she’s being open to the idea of getting back together again. And that’s what i want too. I don’t want to screw up the meet up as i am really open to the idea of getting back together again. But she has to leave her co-worker boyfriend first.

Some guidance and/or comments would really help.

Thank you

It sounds like she was seeing this other guy while you were in a relationship with her. Did you tell her she has to leave her boyfriend before you’re willing to meet up with her?

Thanks Patricia12.

She admitted to seeing this guy since January.

Yes. I should tell her that. Or can it be just a casual meet up?

Go ahead and meet up to see what she has to say. Maybe she wants to try and reconcile or maybe not, in which case you can move on. Wondering if you can forgive a cheater.

I have very little hope that she wants to reconcile. I asked her what the meetup is for? She said to say the unspoken things. I have no idea what that means. Is it for closure?

Who knows? Just go.