This time around is for real she said. We just got back from a short trip with some friends. Few days before the trip, we had some arguments and she said something like “This is too much, i cant do this anymore”. I took it as a breakup. I was so angry and immediately after that, i texted our friends that the trip is cancelled because we broke up. But after she has calmed down, everything went back to normal.
But i lied to her saying that i didnt tell our friends(one of them is her best friend) about it. I felt bad for lying to her tho it was just a white lie. But a lie is still a lie. I told them not to tell her anything as i want to sort this out with her after the trip. A day before the trip i’ve decided to tell her after the trip as I want to really make this relationship works and i dont want to make her sad or mad anymore. She said to me once, if i ever hide anything from her, she prefers to know the truth from me rather than from a third party. I dont want to tell her during our the trip as i don’t want to spoil our friends’ day. But sadly, right after sending our friends back. She told me she found out bout the truth from her best friend. She decided she cant handle the relationship anymore. Because this is not the first ‘white lie’ from me. I have planned to tell her the truth and to show to her that i can be more transparent, the chance was taken away from me. And now, the person who told her the truth is avoiding me.
She said no matter how much she loves me, she cant be with someone she cant trust. And she will never get back to me…ever again.
The first time we broke up was because i was too busy and i didnt even spend much time with her.
My question now is, do i have the chance to get her back as this is not the first time we broke up. What should i do? I want her back. I regret lying to her. I dont know if i ever have the chance to get my fav girl.
Dude, honestly, I think she doesn’t deserve u… I’m passing through the same problem, I hope you get yourself together (it’s easier saying than doing, lol).
One of our friends just told me that she’s having mixed feelings about this breakup thingy and does not want to speak to me as she does not want to affect her decision which is…to not wanting me back.
I still want her back. I want to win her heart back. Although most of our friends think we are not good for each other but deep down I knw what’s good and not good for me. The last time we broke up…I didnt want her back. But this time around I want her back so badly because deep down I know that she’s worth it. crazy right?
hey,
IF your relationship failed twice,you need to apply NC for 3 months.
Make positive changes in your life and don’t stalk her on anything during this time.she needs to see the changes in you.and those are the next steps and we will be here to help you. for now,just focus on your life and try to be happy and confident.
The first time we broke up. I didnt contact her for 4 months. The day i contacted her, i was actually seeing someone else and was happy. I was looking forward to be her friend although deep down I do miss her a bit. She then confessed to me she has not yet move on from me and that she’s so angry with herself for letting go of me. We then talk it out, and i fell for her all over again. This time around i guess, it will be hard.
So, do i have to still apply NC for 3 months or…more?
Okay. Will give it a try. I do hope she will give me one last chance to work things up with her. I just dont want her to forget about me. sigh. Thank you for the advise A.Z!