Hello everybody,
I’m confused by this situation, could you please give some opinions?
Some background:
Be dumped by ex-girlfriend after a 8 year and half relationship. After two months of no contact I finally saw her yesterday at the gym.
She was a member of the gym for about the last three years, three months before the break up I decided do join the gym. She seemed to support my decision and even said it was a good idea because she was losing motivation to go to the gym and now we could go together. I was happy because I felt I was losing her and this would be a good chance to spent more time together.
However, we went very few times together to the gym she complained about no motivation to go to the gym, and even said the gym conditions were getting worse.
In the last month of our relationship she barely appeared at the gym, but I still went alone or with some friends.
In the day she broke with me I said we should avoid seeing each other, because it would be harder for me. She sadly agreed (she still wanted my friendship), I asked about the gym situation, and she said that had lost all motivation to go the gym and would leave it to me. I said she didn’t need to leave, but she insisted in leaving and said she was more excited with some dancing classes that she was going now with some female friends. If she didn’t left the gym I would, I couldn’t heal my heart and see her almost everyday, at the time I already knew no contact was the answer.
So, yesterday imagine my surprise when I saw her passing by me at the gym, we didn’t had the angle to make eye contact, but it was her. I must admit I panicked I tried to keep it cool and went straight to the locker room and went home. I think she saw me. Believe me, the gym was the last place I expected to see her.
This really confuses me, why the gym now?
I’ll be honest, I don’t know if I want her back. I was aiming for more two more months of no contact, and each day that passes my will to contact her is decreasing.
I removed her from facebook two weeks ago, after I saw her car parking outside her work at late night (I was passing by). I assumed she went in a date with another guy. Don’t know for sure. But thinking her with another guy made me sad and at the same time made me feel repulsed.
She posted some quotes on facebook in the last month, two mutual facebook friends told me it seems she had some regrets. However in her last post she seemed she was in love.
I’m feeling a lot better, my confidence is higher. I went to some dates with this attractive girl. I guess my ex heard about it. It’s a small town. I’m starting to feel that I really don’t need my ex to be happy. I’m starting to see that there are a lot of interesting women out there.
So my question is why she went back to the gym? Could it be she thinks it’s all forgotten? She just feel it was good to go to the gym and that’s it? I mean the gym is close to her house, but she even mentioned months before that she was considering moving to another gym due to the lack of conditions of the gym.
A friend of mine told me this was very strange and he thinks she wants to play with my head, that her ego is hurt. She doesn’t understand how a man that loved her more than life itself could move on so fast. The truth is I didn’t totally moved on, but I think I’m really close of move on.
I really don’t want to interact with her, I’m not 100% healed. I’m afraid interacting with her would open my wounds. This upsets me because she knows it, she knows that I believe in the expression “out of sight out of mind”. Still she shows at the gym. Maybe she just thinks I moved on and she feel to workout…I don’t know.
What do you think? Is she trying to mess with my mind or I’m just over analyzing?
