My girl broke up with me 4 months ago, I went no contact with her 3 months ago. I’ve been using the EBP Advance course since then. Yesterday, I reached out using the semi-direct approach, this is what I said “Hey X, I hope you’re doing well. I just wanted you to know that I think ending the relationship was the right decision. Tbh, you were right about therapy, and the breakup was the push I needed to start going. I’ve been going for a while now, and I’ve been learning a lot about myself and my patterns. I realize now that I was in a rut for much of last year, and I see how it was impacting my thoughts, emotions, and actions. It’s been difficult, but I’m proud of the work I’ve done since then. Ngl, I do still miss our conversations, and I’ve realized how much I valued sharing things with you. I want to catch up and hear how your life has been lately. That said, I don’t want to interrupt your healing process, and I completely respect it if you still need space. How have you been?"
She replied today, “Hey, I appreciate you for sharing that with me. I’m really glad to hear therapy has been helpful and that you’ve been learning more about yourself. That takes a lot of courage and work. I’m dealing with some serious family stuff, and my emotional capacity is very limited. I’m not in a place where I can reconnect or catch up, but I truly wish you the best and hope you’re doing well.”
When we were dating, she had 3 grandparents in late stage care and her aunt was recently diagnosed with cancer.
I feel like it is inappropriate to put a timeline on her grief/family crisis and think about trying to reconnet in 3 or 6 months. I think the best thing I can do is just focus on my own life, I believe if we have a future together, it will reveal itself naturally.
What are y’all thoughts?