Recently broken up, first time trying NC - QUESTION

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Hi guys,

My boyfriend of over 2 years (granted it was an open relationship) broke up with me a day before New Year’s (Dec 30) because he wanted to try seeing a new girl exclusively. He asked for 3 weeks, to see if by the end of it if his new relationship would stick. Anyway, it got really bad. This wasn’t our first break up, as he likes the chase when it’s not there, but i think i just want to see if NC makes any significant difference on long term cases.

Please don’t judge our situation, it has been a toxic relationship, but in a way i also want to test this out as an experiment.

My question is - the last time i spoke to him was two days ago Sunday (Jan 1st), we agreed that he will pay me back for the PS4 i got him for Christmas. We also agreed that he will do that this coming Friday (Jan 6). If i wanted to start NC today, do i just ignore him paying me back and wait until 3 weeks after, or start NC after Friday?

xoxo

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@macaronisoup

I don’t know what you hope to gain by NC and it sounds like a silly experiment. It seems you desire a devoted partner, not someone who runs off to chase other girls. Maybe you actually want a monogamous relationship…

Wondering if he paid you back for the PS4 you got him for Christmas and also wondering why you would accept the payment since it was a gift you gave to him?