Hey guys, I re-contacted my ex-gf through texts a week ago after no contact for a month and a half. (I have taken up a couple of hobbies, moved forward with a life goal and gone on a few dates during no contact)
She did reply (which wasn’t a surprise) and we’ve had a couple of conversations about what we’ve done the last month and a half and a book that we were both into. As far as I can tell, I haven’t come across as needy.
How can I now rebuild attraction with her? Is it a good idea to talk about our relationship or will that come across as needy? Thanks!
Tip #1, stop texting her for conversations now. Text her 2-3 times a week briefly, and swiftly move into a call. Text is just words on a screen. You can’t rebuild attraction with texts, or with moving slowly.
Get her on a call, let her hear in your voice and responses how confident you are. Genuinely feel sorry for her that she isn’t your girl right now, because you’re just so awesome. That’s the best mindset to have.
Don’t talk about your relationship unless she brings it up. Address her concerns calmly and sincerely, then move into something else. Remember your goal here is to start a new relationship, not restart the old one. She needs to see the new you.
Once you got her on a call get her to meet you asap. As soon as you feel she’s ready. You may be nervous, but don’t dawdle and delay. You’ll know when the time is right. That’s where the real heavy hitting attraction comes in. Read up on any article written by Chase Amante on Girls Chase, especially “how to get a girl back” he knows what he’s talking about.
When you meet her you don’t have to be Mr. Perfect. Just better than you were. Don’t make any of the typical mistakes, don’t chase her under any circumstances.
Finally, your end goal when you first meet her should be sex. If it doesn’t seem to be going that way, a warm hug and if she lingers and looks you in the eye, a kiss. But sex is the ultimate attraction. Blow her mind and let her sit on it for a day or two before following up.
Hey guys, my story is a bit complicated, we broke 3 months ago and I didn’t contact her for 3 months. My sister contacted my ex girlfriend and tried to reconcile us but it failed she still was bitter about a lot of my mistakes and her misunderstandings. I’ve sent her a clean slate text in which I apologized for what has happened during the breakup and I told her I’ll be working on myself and she wouldn’t be hearing from me for a while.
So right now I’m on a renewed 30 days no contact I’m working on myself.
My question is when should I address the issues that made her breakup with me, during the first couple of week of texting or when we will restablish attraction? Since she’s someone who doesn’t get over an issue without first talking through it.
Thank you.