Ok. Broke 6 week NC last night and got a positive reply on the memory text.
Our relationship was a good one with no fights. Our breakup had nothing to apologize for. We just fizzled, half her extremely demanding job (resident Dr.) and me for my temporary lack of ambition. We were going to move in June, my attempt at a business failed (I was starting it when we met), and I saw no need to find a job I was going to quit in 5 months, had plenty of money; enough to last 2-3 years if I really had to. I’m a scientist; quitting like that doesn’t look good so I decided to do consulting while I waited to move to the new city that had tons upon tons of FT jobs for me. (The reasons for the breakup are only my best guess, she never specified and she did apologize for that a week after the break up while returning my things. “It just feels wrong.”)
In our texts, I’m feeling that Dragon of Resistence, is that what Kevin called it? Thoughts to overcome? I’m giving her positive change information but she is only reacting (positively) and not asking questions for me to elaborate like I was hoping. Nor is she providing much information on her life that I was hoping to talk about too. It feels like the beginning of the end of our old relationship rather than the beginning of a new one.
Also, I cannot follow the standard text model. Because of her job, short conversations can last days. Even when we were together at our peak, if it was a busy rotation for her, we’d each squeeze in a text every few hours. I “stalked” her FB hoping to match her activity to day off activity to start this, but I messed that up. That breaks up the model Kevin says to follow. It will be tough to even come close.
Anyone familiar with my text/time dilemma and have an alternate that could work.
Succeed or fail I feel great. This is definitely a good idea. No regrets that I didn’t try. I’m sure fail will end in despair again but hopefully shorter than the first time and I’ll come out of it over her…I’m hoping for succeed though.