My ex-boyfriend broke up with me last mid-February, a week before he asked for space. We’ve been LDR for 2 months and together physically for 3 weeks. Our problems started when he invited me to spend Chinese New Year at their home 'cause he wanted me to meet his parents and propose. His parents are nitpicky and complained a lot about me. The reasons he broke up are because of cultural differences, and that I am immature and teenager like. My ex before him was trying to sabotage us as well. After the break-up, he was sending me mixed signals (Liking my posts; reacting to my stories; sending me photo of him wearing my gift). 2 days after the break up he contacted me and invited me to Bali this April, but right now I’m trying to do the 30-day no contact; I think he knows I’m ignoring him because he is trying to ignore me as well. The whole month of March he’ll be traveling with his guy friend in South US. What do u think I should do? I stopped replying to him last 25 February because he said he is missing me but its just difficult to fix things. I asked him why and maybe we can do something about it, but he just replied hmmm. We’re both Asians but from different countries. When he broke up with me I tried to fix it but he doesn’t want to and so I said I respected his decisions.
@Ashley111 Maybe he doesn’t want to go against his parents wishes.
How old are you? Do you live close by to him?
It’s strange he would invite you to Bali after the breakup.
If he doesn’t want to try and mend the relationship, there’s not much you can do.
Continue no contact…
He is 35 and I’m 34. I’m not sure if his parents dont like me. He didn’t like me being emotional and too stubborn when we had a misunderstanding in Jakarta. Before leaving and going back to my country, we still planned what steps to do. Then my ex-boyfriend before him came in again (I had trouble shaking him off; he is narcissistic, control freak and manipulative; we broke up last March 2019) and sent horrible messages to my ex-boyfriend. We were together before in China, but I went home before Christmas. For now, we are living in different countries.
This morning I sent a seed message: “hey, Im sorry I was busy lately, I heard NCOV is in LA/NV area already, take care and wear mask” he replied “no worries… have a good day… you take care too” then I replied “Hmmm… I had a think about it and I understand where you are coming about the break up. Tbh, it brought me a new perspective in life. A lot of things is happening but the most important is Im finally taking control of my life, got everything back and totally cut him off of my life. Im really excited about some of the things that are coming up and Im finally enjoying where things are headed! ? Anyway, enjoy your trip! Talk to you later.” He liked this message. One of our issues is my ex but I already managed to remove him out of the picture. before the break up he gave me an ultimatum, to cut everything from my ex. it’s either him or my ex. and just talk to him if I finished everything he wants coz he said he cant deal with my shit everyday. When he contacted me after the break up he told me that he needs to keep a distance to cool down the situation. (Its just vague) coz after a week of break-up he texts like we havent broken up. But I tried to distance myself and limit the interaction coz he said its difficult to fix us. Im super confused
@Ashley111 He is in China, but where are you?? I’m sure he was happy to hear you cut your ex out of your life:) He told you he needs distance to cool down, so respect his request. You sent a message this morning, now don’t send anymore! Now wait for him to initiate a message to you. Try to be patient…
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He is Indonesian-Chinese, we met in Shanghai. He moved back to Jakarta this January and I am back in the Phils. He will be staying in Jakarta for good but he’ll travel to visit Shanghai from time to time when it is safe for me to return. We already planned for our set-up before our break-up. And yeah he said he needs distance to cool down that’s why he needed some space and break up with me. that’s what he said when he contacted me days after the break-up. I am trying to give the “break-up” he asked coz i felt that he broke up with me but he still wants to act like nothing happened. but when I thought he was opening himself again and being needy (coz he texted me and said “you havent replied on my message”) I tried to suggest why fix us but just replied its just difficult and didnt elaborate further. I will try to do the 30-day no contact and will try to reach out around april and ask about the Bali trip. We planned this trip before our break-up and as I mentioned, he still wants to push thru. Let’s see if he is still interested after the NC.
The NC will help him enjoy his month-long trip while I try to rebuild and enjoy myself as well.