paradoxical

This monday I started working in my new job and she asking how it is, because I never talked about thath job with my ex and her sister is only one who know thath we break up. Our mutal frineds dosent know thath we break up so… Yeah I also thinks its a better to continue NC because I really thinks she needs some space.

Youre doing the right thing! :slight_smile:

this sound stupid but can be thath my ex is doing some kind of test to see if I will wait her, because when she break up with me she did tell me thath I can do whatever I want to like go work on ship,to find new girl… And she said thath I can broke up with her on fb to everybody to see it,but I dont want to do thath, because she didn’t do it either.

She might be, just to see. I have no idea what could be running through her head. Ive never been in her shoes, but I wish I knew also.

hey how was your meeting went with ex?

We were planning on tonight, but he had to cancel because of an emergency… :frowning:

It really sucks, I probably wont see him till July now. So much for hoping to have fun.

hoping nothing serious happened :(…Im so sorry to hear that

Nothing serious, he drove 4 hours away to look at an apt. It was the only available day to see it.

I wont see him till july now. And im so sad. I shouldnt have gotten my hopes up about today. I tried not to but I did. and now im back to square one. Ugh. Im so stupid.

hey you are not stupid! I would do the same thing if I was in your position. But is not over yet, what did he say?

I asked him to go bowling tonight to make it fun. and He said he’d “Love to, but hes headed (4 hours away) to look at an apt, and it was the only time that fit in his schedule for 2 weeks” than he said he made the decision last night and was gonna ask to hang last night, but he didnt get done with this paper until 11pm. He also said hes been wanting to do something like that for a while now. He wont be back until sunday… and I move Saturday. So… We had a nice texting convo after that. And he said hed keep in touch, but he probably wouldn’t come down to my city until he drives through on the 4th of july and he moves to my city july 15th. I guess I just hope he keeps in contact like he said he would.

He still wants to have something with you I’m sure. Maybe it’s meant to be that way. I know its hard but maybe time apart will only make your love stronger and you gonna be in conntact all the time I’m sure. Look I have been very cold to my gf and I was afraid of commitment :frowning: . So last thing I write to her 6 days ago thath I’m willing to move with her because I finaly have money and job to afford it…

I hope you’re right. Im sorry to hear that. What did she say to that?

im 100 percent sure i’m right :)… She didnt say anything about that because I said something like: this is the last thing I will say to you and I will not bordering you anymore today, good night. And next morning (sunday) I just send her happy easter becasue she is orthodox and she only reply thank you.

I didnt want to push her to answer me because before that she said to me that I choking her and I have to give her space with messages and I making all worst with this. And that she doesn’t know what she is felling now and doesn’t know what she whant to fell in future.

what do you think should I send her one message that she was wright that I was afraid of commitment and now I think I want to move with her

I think you should leave it. Im just afraid since she told you she doesnt wanna be bombarded with texts you ending her that might push her far away. And I dont want to see that happen to you. Give it at least another week or 2 before contacting her again. How long have you been NC now?

yeah you are right :)…only 6 days of NC :frowning:

Yeah, try and set a goal of 2 weeks, complete NC and see what happens. See how you feel after that time and maybe shell reach out to you with all the silence, or by then you might be ready to initiate convo with her.

yeah I will try to do it…I really hope she reach out to me. I didnt tell you but we had so emotional break up, we didnt fight or anything we both cry so much…