So, I got broken up with a little over 2 months ago now, we had been together for just under 1.5 years.
During the first couple of weeks afterwards I was being needy and desperate with her, so I did no contact with her and started working on improving myself especially in some of the areas I knew had a cause in her breaking up with me. Once I had completed NC for 30 days I sent her a text where I apologized for how I acted those first couple weeks afterwards, some of the ways I have been working on improving myself, and lastly that I hoped she is doing great. She responded and we mainly discussed some of the things that I and we both didn’t do right. It was a fairly in depth conversation where we discussed our issues and we both tried to better understand some of the reasons we felt were behind those issues. For example, she had been asking me to share my feelings and thoughts with her for quite some time (lack of me sharing was the main reason she broke up with me as well) and I never shared because I truly didn’t know how to open up and communicate at the time. We talked about some of the ways I had been working on my communication and she stated she was so proud of me for how I was improving myself. We ended that conversation talking a bit about what we had been doing lately and also about how weird it was that we don’t know what’s going on in each other’s lives anymore.
Since then, we have talked on and off about some of our favorite memories and how we would improve ourselves, but the conversations still tend to go back to the issues we had, I have also sent her some social media posts that have reminded me of her and she tends to respond to them well. Also, note she has a new guy currently, not sure how long they have been together. During this time she has intermittently started and/or continued the conversations by talking about some things going on in her or my life. But the conversations still tend to go back to discussing some of our issues, I feel we have had some good talks related to those and I have been able to get her to understand why I did/didn’t do some of the things she had asked of me or that she may not have liked. We have also talked about some of our life goals for ourselves and one thing we wish we could change about ourselves/each other during our time together. I also found out through these talks that she had been thinking of breaking up with me for somewhere around 6 months before she actually did, which hurt but looking back I could also understand why she did. Not sure if it matters or not but I can also tend to only get her to respond well to me more so during the work day especially as compared to on weekends or after work.
I feel like I am making some progress in her talking with me normally again but I also feel that continuing to fall back to talking about our issues may not be the best way to go about this, thoughts?