I instigated NC with my ex just over a week ago by telling him I thought it was best if we stopped contacting each other for a while so I could get over the break up. I made this decision for myself because he would send me misleading messages like a kissy emoji occasionally and I knew I couldn’t heal by wondering when/if I would hear from him next.
He told me he was here when I wanted to talk and hoped I was ok.
I know this is stupid but I was kind of expecting to hear from him even though I told him I didn’t want to.
It’s been just over a week and I’m finding it very hard but I’m determined not to get in contact for 30 days. My question is do you think there’s any way he’ll reach out to me if he misses me or have I kind of closed the door on that by saying I didn’t want to be in contact.
Missing someone doesn’t necessarily mean wanting to reconcile.
You don’t give any history, but there’s no way to know if or when he will reach out to you.
Requesting he not contact you is a good thing if want to move on. You need time to get over the intense hurt you felt after he broke up with you. Anything other than him telling you he wants to work through problems with you in order to try and reunite, is a sign that he doesn’t want to try. He probably still “cares” about you which would be normal if you were in the relationship a long time…
NC is tough but it will give you some perspective and objectivity in regards to the relationship. Don’t give in, block him if you have too, that way you will at least feel as if you were in control. I actually deleted some of my social media apps (without deleting the accounts) so that I actually took the time i spent on my phone/talking to him doing other things for myself