No contact day 7. Girlfriend Birthday

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Hello boys and girls,

Trying to get my gf back. It’s been really hard. Day 7 it sher birthday, and I had a really big moment of weakness and I wrote her 00;00 the moment time changed and it was her birthday. I wrote: “happy birthday, I wish you a great year” she responded only with “thanks”.

I know Kevin talks about how it’s ok to write for birthday but ideally not. I did my best to avoid and do not want to write her anymore. But was thinking of writing and asking her friend if she is ok on her birthday and that I miss her. But now I see she will probably tell her I wrote.

I’m just really worried because we have been dating only 3 months before I got needy and desparate, And now She just shunned me aside like trash. Its Her bierhday it hard. Last week when i tole Her i need Space She told me “you probably have many girlfriends lined up already”. That hurt And was hard not to respond to.

I never cheated in The most literal way but She did Find Messages on my phone. The reason i wrote some girls is because i wantednto keep my options going as Our relarionship wasnt perfect. Shes 21. Im 31. We arę Of different worlds and cultures. I love her and it’s really hard for me right now. I don’t want her to think that I don’t care “which she says to me very often”

I’ve read every article on this site, more than once. It’s a hard day. Miss her

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@ripler - I see a couple of troublesome things here. If you cared about your girlfriend, there’s no excuse for communicating with other girls! The age and culture differences also raise concern. She might be a little immature, but that’s for you to judge. I don’t know if you were acting needy and desperate while you were dating, but that’s a big turn off for anyone. DO NOT write her friend! Getting someone else involved with this situation is NOT good and will cause nothing but trouble. It’s nice you sent her a happy birthday note, but leave her alone for now and continue no contact. If you actually think things might eventually work out with you two (I have my doubts), but if so, write her again after about a month to ask how she’s doing and take it from there.