Im having a hard time doing no contact because I feel as if my ex is perfectly fine not talking to me. Has anybody on here actually gotten their ex back by doing no contact? I guess i just need a little hope. If anyone was in my situation where their ex seemed perfectly fine and happy without them but came running back after NC, I would like to here it! Any advice will help. Its been week 2 with no contact and im losing hope
And if anybody could read my other posts and also give me advice, it would really help!
Yes U have to exercise patiences , give him more space .
hi alexa, i canât promise anything but, my break up was very similar as my ex just went all out after we broke up, started overdoing social networks, going out everyday, with people i have never seen in my life. i obviously could not confront her about it but when i did it caused more anger than happiness. she never got over me but rather put me aside and tried to just leave that book on the table but not read it. after a while he will be alone and start thinking back at the relationship and decide if it was an amazing one or not. i was lucky that i could send sad messages stating how amazing our relationship and bond was without getting fought with. i finally decided to end the chase because i realised my self worth, thats what you need to do, look at yourself and think, are you really only capable of getting this person or somebody even better than them? doth get me wrong i thought i was the luckiest man alive with my ex BUT as soon as you gain your self worth youâll realise that you running behind someone or crying everyday is not making a difference to them and they donât respect you enough to even care.
somehow i told my ex goodbye and now she messages me daily about her whereabouts and what she is up to. this all happened after i gave up chasing and obsessing.
When we broke up before he left for school, we didnt speak for about a week and he texted me âHope everything is goodâ, but he was home then. He is now away for school, Im just scared that he is to focused on other things to even think about me. I did say goodbye to him and that I dont deserve to wait around for a man that doesnt even want me and since then, he hasnt spoken to me or anything.
Hi Alexa,
I am in a similar situation! I am doing NC and Iâm scared that my ex wonât think of me or is doing perfectly fine without me. NC is good for you to do and that should be your mindset. The fact that my ex probably thinks about me way less than I do about her is upsetting. But as NC progresses, I try to make myself different and better so that when I do see my ex, sheâll notice a change. Your ex might not think of you, but I bet itâs just a case of âout of sight, out of mind.â My ex, Iâm sure, rarely thought of me over the summer, but when we hungout (over summer, before NC), she would still fall back into her old ways of calling me pet names or playfully rubbing my back. When I was directly in her presence, and therefore her mind, she treated me differently. I guarantee your ex thinks of you, itâs just different coping methods. What you need your ex to see is you being a happy, positive, attractive person. That will ignite your exâs curiosity.
That is so true. Its just I dont know when I will see him again because he is away at college and I feel like he wont talk to the whole time he is there.
He is away at school with his brother and I havent spoken to him in 2 weeks. I texted his brother asking how he was and how hes doing in school and baseball, and his brother said that hes doing great and that he is âmore excited and focused than ever beforeâ and honestly, that kind of made me feel like shit⌠like weeks after we break up, hes doing better in alot of stuff. Im just losing hope because I seriously think he is doing so much better without me or is not even a little bit miserable. Im happy hes doing good in baseball because that is something truly important to him, it just hurt knowing that hes doing better than ever, kind of like I was distracting him. Not sure how to handle that and that made me feel like there really is no chance.
Im focusing on myself right now and not contacting him, Im just honestly scared of the outcome from the breakup, like will he realize hes perfectly fine without me because he has no much filling that void in his life?