Can no contact work a second time?
I did no contact around this time last year and sent the elephant text and got a positive reaction. We started hanging out at least once a week, and we started holding hands, and kissing hello and goodbye like a couple.
A year went on like this and she never, not once, brought up getting back together. I finally did but she hit me with the same thing she said when she broke up with me. The reason she broke up with me was because i started being controlling, jealous, and insecure. Unfortunately, I am ashamed to say, sometimes those actions would still be present during our reconciliation phase.
I cannot stress enough, to any NEW readers, please follow every step PRIOR to ending no contact. Work on yourselves until you are a better person, better than the person your ex broke up with (your former self). It is explained in the article, and it is 100% true, your ex will see through the bullshit. Unfortunately, I was too busy counting the days to break NC and dreading that NC would overlap Valentine’s Day last year, that I even broke it prematurely. I was adamant that I was a better person, but that was a damn lie.
After my ex told me once more (about 2-3 week ago) the same ol thing. I have implemented NC once again. I have now successfully stopped obessing over my ex, no longer do I constantly check her social media, nor do I expect anything. I’ve been going out with my friends and meeting new women (nothing serious just having fun). I even questioned whether or not I even really want my ex back. Which is actually an important thing in one of the articles found on this site. I can live without my ex. I realize that now. However, she is a great women. She truly is. She is a hard worker, has excellent values, and she isn’t about the bullshit. She is definitely the type of women I want in my future.
It was on me, I fucked up.
Ultimately, I’m wondering if a second, PROPER, no contact can work. She expressed how much she wanted me to be her friend. Last we talked, that is. I know she misses me.
Shall I try one more time, seriously try this time? Or should I just move on.