also of course he misses you. 
but remember it’s only for 1 month or so, lol, so take it one day at a time. you’ll be ok,
Cassie/aams I send a letter and waited for her reaction. I wrote about it in the following topic: https://www.forum.exbackpermanently.com/boards/topic/after-nc-period/
Currently it feels like im at a dead end in the false friendship getting different signals everyday. Im sure she loves me and she even said its beatiful we have been doing so great for the last two weeks. However, she still pressure me to move forward and sell the house. If you like to read more about the problems I have faced, you can click on my name and see all the topics I have created. Perhaps you will find some answers in it.
I think creating a false friendship is the way to go and allows you to come closer to your ex. After sending a text or letter be patient. If he contacts you try to plan a meeting to close the distance of the false friendship. In this phase you need to pay attention to thr signals you are getting but dont fool yourself.
what do you mean by: In this phase you need to pay attention to thr signals you are getting but dont fool yourself. what type of signals? this sounds preety hard. also you mean plan a face to face meeting? what if he doesn’t react or contact me after the letter/text? thanks I’m going to keep browsing through your topics. thanks again.
You need to pay attention whether you get signals like they still have feelings for you or not. In my situation, I have the feeling she maintains contact to get things done (asking for my car, saying we need to sell the house, etc.) Because you still have feelings its probably hard to stay objective. Thats why I said dont fool yourself. Try to be realistic and take it how it goes.
Im sure he will react to your letter. If he doesnt dont panic, your ex doesnt own you anything. Just wait 5 days and send a text message.
I see, thanks for explaining. now I have a question, how do you know when the right time to contact your ex is? I read Kevin’s email about timing and it really scared me. I miss him so much and need him back in my life already. this sucks it’s so hard. did you ever go on a date before contacting your ex and how long did you wait before contacting her? also don’t let her walk all over you, like the article says in part one. keep your head up.
Hi aamls,
In my opinion it’s the right time when you feel strong enough to talk to your ex without showing neediness. You should be in charge and take the lead when you talk to your ex (have fun, talk about what’s going on, etc., but don’t mention anything about the break-up for the time being). Show him the new version of you and he should notice your improvements. I contacted my ex after one month of NC, but I should have waited a bit longer.
Actually, I went on more than one date before contacting my ex. It gave confident and also created some distance between me and my ex. That’s exactly what you need when you face your ex. However, it was helpful for the first two meetings but after that it became harder because my feelings were all over the place and it’s hard to keep the false-friendship and stay patient. I’m now planning to tell her all my feelings and see how it goes.
Cassie,
It honestly seems like his a bit confused about what is going on. Seems like he just needs some time for himself to figure things out! Show him that you care etc, BUT don’t be there for him. Go for NC and change your style a bit! Like, get a new haircut, buy new clothes and show him you’re having a great time and that YOU’RE HAPPY. If you have been depressed or negative around him he has gotten tired… He needs to see the spark in you where you can be positive and show him that his missing out of something really great here. Don’t date anyone else though… Don’t start talking to boys to get his attention, don’t make him jealous… Because I’m pretty sure it will backfire. It did with me.
“I ended up telling him “lets just break up” not expecting to him to actually do it but he did. I begged him to take me back!”
The same thing happened with me, I called her, was so mad because she refused to believe me about something stupid, was a stupid thing nothing serious called her and said : “I think we should just break up, I don’t want this anymore…” And she said: “okay, you’re right”…
She started saying she had lost feelings for me etc on the phone, it hurt me, but it was my fault. And I started being pathetic and needy which drove her even more away from me.
Just do NC 1 month, if he doesn’t contact you after 1 month, then contact him. Ask him if he wants to do something with you, do something that he likes though! You probably know what he loves doing, so do that with him. And if he says “I can’t do this… Sorry” tell him that it isn’t a date, just something so you two could catch up as friends. DON’T INDICATE that it’s a date even if it is… Show him the new you! And show him why he felt in love with you in the first place! YOU got this! Honestly, your situation is good! Nothing to worry about!
@funkylicious, thanks for the input. Good luck with letting her know how you feel, you seem brave enough to do it, something I wouldn’t feel comfortable doing in fear of rejection. let us know how it goes.
@clear can you read my story and give me your input? Cassie suggested to date first as well, I’m kinda confused, thanks.
Thanks for the support, clear! I really appreciate it
I’m already planning what to do when NC is over. Back when we met I promised him tickets to a football game but tickets were sold out but now i finally managed to get some. I’m thinking of leaving the 2 tickets in his mailbox with a note saying “You may not remember, but when we first met I promised you these tickets. Back then they were sold out but now managed to get some. I hope you’ll bring me.”
Is it too much? Back then I was always so so nice to him and thats why he fell for me. I’d get up at 4 in the morning to make him bacon and eggs eventhough i didnt have to get up untill 9. I want to show him that thats still me.
Maybe give him the tickets in person? Ask him first if he wants to meet up after the NC, then tell him you have tickets and you wonder if he wants to come with you?
I used to do sweet things for my girlfriend too… And omg she did it too, sooo much more than me. I stopped doing it, and when she did it I was ignorant and yeah… I messed up was so negative about everything so he stopped doing it… Sweet things are always a plus!
You think it’s better to give them to him in person?
Yes, I really regret now that I didnt do them more often… Do you think i have a chance to get him back?
cassie you have a big chance of getting him back, your doing good, keep doing what your doing, you already have a good head on your shoulders.
Today I feel so so bad… I woke up feeling that ill never get him back and that i’ve lost him forever. Should I really keep on hoping that he’ll take me back at some point?
I’ve had those days too, they are the worst, and I hate them. hang in there you have a great chance of getting him back. cassie the email keeps saying delivery failed.
Thanks, I really hope so!
of course. at least you didnt cheat 
so you really have a chance. cassie the email doesnt work, idk why, so I may just post the letter on the fourm, :-/…
I really really feel like texting my ex right now… i miss him so bad i cant take this anymore.
I know how you feel, hang in there your doing great. I sent you my letter.
I’m scared that I wont ever have him back and it breaks my heart… I wish there was something i could say or do