Let me tell my story as simple as possible. I’m a university student and still I’m a first year student, I found someone who I thought a world to me in my university. We were in a relationship at least 6 month. But she really loved me and so do I. But sometimes I get jealous when someone always talking with her, so most of time we were getting into fights but later we were able to get things together back again. But she always said that she needs her Freedom and
to always trust her but sometimes I did sometimes don’t. Because I love her too much. About 3 weeks ago we were got in to a fight again then suddenly she decided to breaks up with me. She said you are try to limit my freedom and I don’t like that and so on. She said we can still me best friend and I will never leave you or abandone you,i will always will be there for you so be like my friend and nothing more, the day she said it she cried over my lap and said please don’t try to love me again just be my friend I can’t do this anymore and she kissed me. And also she has some family issues because her family don’t really like me being with her, because always I’m blaming her for trust issues. Now she has block me from text messaging and social media because I’m not acting like her best friend because I can’t do that I really lover her. Now she is avoiding me when I’m trying to talk to her. Her friend says she always crying because of me. I don’t know what to do I know this all happened because of me, she gave me a second chance to be better for her but I ruined it. Now she is avoiding me. Is no contact rule will work? Please I don’t know what to do, I feel like she still love me but she is trying to avoid me because she thinks I won’t be a good husband to her. Please need advice fast. Is there anything that I missed please let me know.
Unwarranted jealousy has ruined many relationships. She got sick and tired of your jealousy and her family is justified in not liking or approving of you. You need serious help and going to see a psychiatrist might help you. Until or unless you change your thoughts and behaviors, you will never be able to make a woman happy. Please seek out the help you need…
She is avoiding you because she doesn’t want any more of your drama and accusations. If you really loved her, you wouldn’t treat her so badly!
Don’t try to talk with her. Don’t contact her. Focus on getting the help you need so that someday in the future you will be able to have a normal happy relationship.
I understand that I did something really wrong and I want a another chance, so I can give what she really wanted from me. I know I’m very insecured and jealously, this is my second relationship that I lost because of my behavior. I always gave too much than she wanted. I really love her but I want another chance for being good to her. I know she still thinks about me but she is trying to avoid it because she thinks I won’t be good for her in the future. Please tell me what I have to do if I want to get her back. I’m so depressed and I can’t think straight for studies. Please need advice. I really want to get her back and give her what she really wanted.
She gave you a second chance already, but you didn’t change. Of course you won’t be good for her in the future the way you are now. That’s why you need therapy to help you change for the better.
She would be miserable with you the way you are now. If you want a chance with her, you have to change!
Make an appointment for therapy sessions. Then tell her about it after you start therapy.
In the meantime, try harder to focus on your studies.