So my ex and I have been broke up for a month now. We have contacted each other during this period. He said he needed time but I didn’t give it to him. I contacted him the other day and asked if it would be possible if we coulf work things out and he said it would be possible. I left a text that basically daid that I was going to give him his time because we both needed it. So do I start the nc rule again and for how long and do I wait for him to contact me?
Yes, start no contact again! Wait until HE contacts YOU to apologize for his bad behavior and is willing to treat you better. Otherwise, date other guy and surely you could find a much nicer guy!
Starting this 2nd post makes it difficult to keep up with your story, so I suggest you continue on one post OR the other, okay?
Wishing the best and please think if trying to reconcile with this particular guy is in YOUR best interest.
I just found his profile on POF so should I just give up on the fact that it is probably over for good?
Yeah, it’s probably over for good. He’s looking for someone else. Try to find a nicer guy.
No you should not just give up because you found a his POF profile. How long have you been broken up. Rebound relationships usually only last a couple months. But you should focus on yourself so you will be just find if he doesn’t come back to you.
It will be 5 weeks tomorrow that we have been broke up.
Its recommended that people wait at least 3 months to start a new relationship after a breakup. People need to heal first. Jumping into a new rekationship that soon is almost always going to fail within a couple months.
Stay no contact and let him have his rebound relationship. He will be comparing her to you, and she wont measure up. Eventually he will begin to doubt his decision and start to panic because he hadnt heard from you. He will worry that you had moved on or will soon. That is what we want.
A tebound relationship will actually work in your favor if you stay no contact. But if you contact him for any reason, you will appear needy or obsessed. That is unattractive and will only push him further away. No contact shows confindence and security. That is much more attractive than needy.
That does not mean you should wait for him. Stay no contact and let yourself heal. Continue to work on yourself and do things you enjoy, so that when he does contact you, you will be your best self and that is who he fell for.
He and I talked yesterday and he says that he needs time to figure out himself because of what he did to me and that he’s not ready to get unto a relationship with anyone but he’s enjoying going out and getting attention from other women. So we just left it as we both needed time to heal and move on or heal and try again.