Hi I’ve been with my fiancé for 6 years. Two years in we opted into a poly relationship her decision and i liked it. But 2 years ago i cheated on her and i did it again recently with the same person. I felt really guilty and eventually told her. It went from she was a little salty to full blown anger. She even tried to sleep with a guy to get back at me. Normally idc because were very open but she was hiding the fact that she was staying at hotels with this guy. I love her dearly we had our arguements but never this bad. Ive been doing nc for 8 days now. Shes so hot and cold with me. One day she left without even telling me after an arguement. We went to couples therapy and she felt embarrassed and was angry because i said she was acting ungrateful.shes been upset at me because we havent travled to snother country yet and because we haven’t moved out yet. But were both 25 shes just now able to go to school and ive gone back as well. I was already changing to move out but ny is expensive. She payed for my bills the middle 2 years so i can follow my career but when we first moved to ny i paid for almost all the bills and i was doing it now. Ever since she lost her bank job she hasnt been able to keep a job for more then a few months. I love her i have a temper and intermient explosive disorder. But i take medication now and have been much better. We used to share a very close bond. She has depression and has tried to kill herself when she was younger. There was a period before she got diagonosed and her medication where she would be depressed for hours have suicidal thoughts and cry and just lay in bed. I would always try to be there for her. I nearly sacrificed my life to protect her twice.i know ive been pushing her away ive been very emotional not only losing her but my grandfather and then my grandma having a stroke all at the same time. Idk what to do with her other then nc and improve myself.
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Hi big bank, welcome to the board. I didn’t see your post before. I will not advise you to have a monogamous relationship, because you both chose to have an opened one. Anyways you too seem to be having jelousy issues. You need to do some serious thinking while NO Contact period. Does she like an open relationship or what? What can you do to make her happy?
From reading your post, I believe both of you still love eachother. If you both decide to start all over again after NC and the seducing part passes; Please do not bring the past issues. Try to change for this girl. I wish you lots of luck and change. 