I was in a relationship with a girl for a little over two years when suddenly she tells me she has a letter for me to read… you pretty much can guess what that letter said. Probably similar to the one of the letters or texts or phonecalls youve recently recieved. Not a nice thing to read. The next couple of weeks after reading the breakup letter i wasnt handling everthing very well and after about 12 unanswered texts i decided to be proactive and do a google search where i found this site and others like it. Upon reading as much as i could and realising that i had done everything wrong from constant texting to flowers to begging to angry texts and so on.
I decided to start no contact. The previous day i had sent flowers and the last text message i sent was “i just want it to stop hurting”… thus NC began. The next night after recieving nothing all day i got 4 texts in a row. One of them saying she was sorry. Im not sure what for yet… but i was shocked that the whole situation had flipped i was the needy one texting and ringing all the time and it only took 24 hours for her thinking to change. The way i figure it. If your making yourself available at the drop of a hat for her she never really misses you cause she has the power to take you back anytime… this is only day 3 of no contact and i still havent replyied… if i know her as well as i think… im due for a few messages the likes of why arent you talking to me? For which the response will be i need some time… i was in the pits before i read these aticles online which told me what i need to hear to kick my arse into gear. NC and positive change is a great way to deal with the post breakup feelings… go from being on a rollercoaster of emotions to a boat in a nice calm stream. I hope to get the love of my life back. But if its not to be its not to be. You cant force a relationship it has to happen somewhat naturally. As i said im no expert. These are just my experiences/thoughts… thanks for reading…