NC is almost over and I am thinking about sending her a text to reach out

Hey there,
Gonna keep this short and sweet. Ex and I in long distance, was great to begin with, we broke down in communication and it went south, she’s away currently and her text to me was as follows:

“I’m happy to have discussions with you about everything but I really don’t think that if I can build anything back from this that I’ll be able to do it with distance. If we’d like to try and come back around to it when I’m back in xxxx we can. That’s honestly just where my head is at at the moment.”

Followed by

“I also can’t guarantee that I’ll want this between us again, I’m sorry to say that but I just want to be clear.”

I am moving across country end of the week and she will be back from work end of the month, she said she’s open to a discussion when we are both in the same spot and I’ve been in no contact for a bit now. I have drafted up a text to send her just before she gets back and I was wondering if this is something that shows what needs to be shown and feedback from an external, non bias view.

We were a great couple but work clouded my mind and I couldn’t handle it at the time, I’ve used this time apart to actually show myself some love and invested into myself. The breakdown of the relationship was purely because of lack of communication and some insecurities.

Here goes:

Hey xxxx, I’ve had some time to reflect on the breakup and understand why things ended. Firstly I wanted to formally apologise for the way I acted after the breakup. I didn’t respect your space and acted out of character because I was so afraid of losing you. I know it might be hard to forgive me but I do hope you can.

I want you to know that I’ve accepted the breakup and realised that it needed to happen in order for us to grow. I’ve utilised this time to reflect and focus on myself and I understand how my lack of communication and insecurities were affecting you and the relationship toward the end, there was a lot on my mind and I took it out on you instead of asking for your support which was not fair at all, I didn’t properly convey my feelings, thoughts and needs to you and I take responsibility and apologise for it.

There’s been so much happening in my life and I miss sharing and just chatting about my day with you. I would love to have you in my life again, even if it is as a friend. But if you need more space and time before you can do that, I completely understand.

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I think you should wait until she returns and let her reach out to you first.

Your message is good but if you want to send it, I will suggest you make it little shorter.

How long were you both together?