My true love just broke up with me, please help me

Hi All,

I am Dora and I hope that you can help me in my situation.

I met my boyfriend in 2013 in our university camp. I was totally drunk so I don’t even remember meeting him. That time was so special for me because I had never been so drunk before that I couldn’t remember… So our first meeting was like a true fairy tale. We talked a lot etc, and we continued talking on Facebook after. We were on several dates when he told me that he is not over his ex yet. I felt angry and disappointed but I didn’t gave it up. I went to the gym, made my hair look good etc. And after 5 months we got together. The whole relationship was like a dream. I adored him. After one year of your relationship he said that he has to move to another city because of work.

It was a horrible time for both of us, but we managed to keep a healthy and happy long-distance relationship. We were planning our future together, we knew the names of our kids and the place of our house. So everything was just perfect. Of course we had little fights all the time because I was jealous and he also became a bit lazy. So I made fights because of other girls and all the time sleepings. Last month I managed to get a job in his city and I moved in to him. The first week was amazing, no fights! But after he started to go out with his colleagues and friends several times a week and I was never invited. There were so many times when I was in bed and he arrived back at 5:30am… I felt terrible and so lonely. I saw that something is not ok, but he said that everything is fine.

Fights started again and last week he said that he is tired of our fights and he wants to be alone. I begged for him not to break up with me, I can give him some time. And I don’t think that there are any problems that cannot be solved. He insisted on breaking up with me and said that he is not motivated enough to make this relationship better. But I love him so much, and he also said the same… I feel that he is the one for me because there are no so many coincidences in the world like in our relationship. And he is perfect for me, I know.

I see that maybe this relationship went wrong because of the fights I started but I wasn’t aware that it can ruin a relationship so much… now I know and I know that I have to change because I lost all my friends and my true love because of my behaviour. But he said that he doesn’t believe me, because I had already promised several times…

Also we bought a weekly pass for a festival where we planned to go together. I have nobody else to go with and I don’t want to go alone. I don’t want to sell my ticket as well, because I want to see my all-time favourites here. Do you think I have a chance to go there with him?

What do you suggest? Do you think I have a chance to get him back? I truly feel that he is my one and only love. I won’t be able to love another man.
I also read the whole guide but I am also interested in you answers and suggestions. Please help!

Hi Dora How long did you live with him? Do you still live with him? Did you ever ask go out with him and his friends? Arguments and the unhappiness they cause are the number one reason for break ups. They cause hurt, anger, and resentments. You promised not to start fights several times, but you broke that promise time and time again and now he can’t trust you. Jealousy is another factor in break ups and suspicions without evidence is ridiculous. Accusing a man of being unfaithful is a big hit to his dignity and he won’t easily forget it. You can’t force a man to want to reconcile a relationship, he makes that decision on his own. If the relationship was mostly unhappy for him, he’s not likely to want to re-enter it! And if he doesn’t want to try and resolve all the problems he had with you, there’s nothing you can do because it takes two, wanting to work through issues together.
The festival is the least of your concerns, but if he won’t go with you, then go with a neighbor, friend, or family member. Wishing you luck