Thanks. I need those words of encouragement. Next week I have to study on campus in another city but then I won’t have to do that again until next year (I think) so I am planning on calling her more often and seeing how she responds. I also am going to ask if she wants to do something fun like mini golf sometime soon.
I have to keep reminding myself that it has only been a week since she got the letter.
Teachers college is where I go to study to be a teacher. I start next week.
You’re welcome:) Yes, keep reminding yourself (and encouraging yourself) that this “new connection” is recent and that things probably won’t change quickly, it will take some time. Inviting her out for something fun will create a new good memory and I hope she accepts, but don’t be too upset if she doesn’t. It might take a while before she feels comfortable going out with you.
Teacher’s College is only for 4 days. After that, will you be qualified to teach? What sort of job do you have now?
Best of luck and keep your chin up…
Teachers college is for over a year. I just have to go up there for a week and then do the rest long distance. I an doing relief (substitute) teaching now.
I will keep at it. Hopefully it will slowly turn my way.
We had another phone conversation. I started my first day of study today and I wanted to tell her about it so I texted to see if she was still awake. She called me not long after and we talked about the kids, about her work, about my day and the conversation went on for 18 minutes. At the end she said it was nice to talk to me and hear about how my day went. I told her it was nice to talk to her too.
A small step forward but still a step forward.
Yippee, she called you again! Be sure to call her occasionally at reasonable daylight hours. Even if she doesn’t pick up, I’m sure she will be delighted and return your call when she can. It sounds like it was a very nice conversation and I’m glad you added it was nice talking with her too…
You wrote:“I started my first day of study today” Good luck with your studies, have fun when you can, and have a safe trip home:) I know you’ll be there for a few more days. But what do you mean by doing the rest of the year long distance? Will the studies continue online?
Yes it will continue online.
Yes it was a nice call :). We had a few laughs too so it was a better conversation than the last one :).
I ordered a box of her favourite, handmade, chocolates last night so they should get there in the next two days.
You wrote:“We had a few laughs too…” That’s great!! You’re on the right path:)
Glad to hear you’re sending her the special chocolates for her birthday. Are you going to send a sweet birthday card too?
Yes I’m going to send it tomorrow so it should arrive on her birthday.
She got the chocolates and she messaged me saying “hey thanks for the birthday present, that was very nice of u.” Then we had a nice little chat over messenger. Another step forward. She should get her card on Friday.
I’m glad she sent you a nice message:) Women enjoy and appreciate thoughtful gifts and gestures ~ So do men, LOL. Anyway, it seems you’re headed in the right direction. Good luck…
I called her again. I texted her first to make sure she was home. She is not well and has the flu. Despite that we had a nice conversation where I talked about my studies and asked her how things were going. The conversation only lasted 8 minutes but she was sick.
The important thing to take away from that was that she was thinking about texting ME shortly before I texted her.
I was going to try and talk to her more often this week but she needs to get well first.
WOW ~ that’s fantastic! Yes she needs rest, but call her again in 2 or 3 days and ask if she’s feeling any better. Maybe ask if she needs anything, like some groceries (milk, bread etc) or medicine (pain or cough med etc). Maybe even help with the kids… Hope she feels better soon:)
Did she mention receiving your birthday card?
No she didn’t mention it but she would have gotten it by now. I was not expecting a response from it. I didn’t get a response from the mothers day card I send her.
Mother’s Day was back in May at a time when you two weren’t on the best terms. But now it seems recently you’ve been connecting and communicating better. And since she’s not feeling well, I can understand why the birthday card might have slipped her mind during the brief conversation today…
Continue to be your sweet caring self:)
Just had a conversation with her on facebook. It felt like I was driving the conversation. She did ask about a few things but it didn’t feel like a friendly conversation. She is still recovering from the flu but it’s frustrating. I’m making an effort!!!
For the most part, texting isn’t the best way to communicate. Tone of voice can’t be determined etc… and there’s room for misinterpretation. I’m sure she’s happy you’re being pro-active and making those efforts:) Don’t become discouraged or negative. This is a slow process and you need to be consistent through-out.
I think you are right. I met her to get the kids and there was something there between us. Something friendly so that is something to work on. She said I looked good lol and asked how things were with me and told me of her weekend plans. She is still recovering.
This is good, plus she gave you a compliment:)
When I dropped the kids off to her it sparked feelings in myself. She is definitely the one for me.
We just had a nice talk on the phone for over 22 minutes. It was definitely better than that talk over facebook. She is still recovering from her flu and is still very tired so it is not the right time to ask her to do something.
Glad you had a nice phone conversation, but try not to determine the “quality” by the minutes talked… Did you call her or did she call you? Actually, that’s not as important compared to the “quality” of the conversation! Yes, phone calls are much more intimate (personable) than texts. Texting can sometimes be misinterpreted!
The flu is horrible! It makes us feel much worse than a simple cold and lasts longer. I hope she feels well soon:)
Continue to be pro-active and call her every few days… Stay positive and give her compliments when appropriate.