I met a girl during my travels, she’s originally from my hometown. so I found a mutual friend who talked to her and told her that someone wants to get to know you. She agreed but as she lives in a different city that 6 hours far away from mine we used to go on a date once or twice per month. It was always amazing and I used to make our dates funny, memorable, deep for her. But she wasn’t so active with me on social media after my returns, like she could be online on Facebook but she replies late, I don’t know if it was slut defense or ego but it didn’t bother me. She told me that she’s scared of relationship cuz her preferences on guys changes by time, also she had a first relationship 4 years ago with a womanizer who cheated on her and she had depression at that time. Anyways we kept going for dates for 6 months and she was getting more attracted to me by time but after our last date I was in her City for 1 week and we agreed to meet nearly everyday, but she refused with some excuses don’t know if they were real or not but I respected them but I got a little bit angry because it’s been 6 months and she’s still testing me although all the sincere and effort i’m doing. After that moment I started to lower the conversation rate on facebook, and weird enough, she was so active these days chatting with me on facebook! maybe it was like apologize or appreciation but I was still a little bit angry, on my last day on her city I dropped the ball in her court saying “I will leave after tomorrow, let me know if we can meet up” she ignored this message and kept talking about other things. Again not sure if slut-defense or rejection. I was so upset that I returned and we met only once during the whole week. so I decided no more contacts on facebook as she’s ignoring my messages and reply late. I used to wake her up by phone every day morning and talk for few minutes but no facebook contact at all, the next week I called her, she didn’t pick up, five minutes later she called, I told her sorry I just hit the gym and I will call back after training, she said ok take your time. After gym I call, no answer. few hours later I wrote a message on facebook, and she never replied till now! it’s been 3 weeks no contact not even a like on facebook or story view from her side, I just liked one of her posts as a test but she never returned or gave any hint. Her birthday is next week and I’m thinking of sending her a letter with the book she gave to me from her own library cuz she cares about her books. But on 5 steps plan it says just write a simple message like: Happy birthday. and on other topics it says send a hardcopy letter with apologize so i’m little bit distracted here.
her birthday is in 2 days…
Don’t send a happy birthday! Unless you intend to continue groveling, seeking her attention even after she’s been avoiding you for weeks.
She’s ignoring you and she has very low interest in you. Stop chasing her and try to find a nice girl in your hometown.