You can text him asking if he’s doing better 
I don’t know if I wanna give him the letter anymore. His mom has a big mouth and was talking crap, now I gotta talk to her and see what happened. last night I was feeling very sick, like literally like I was gonna fall. I almost fell in the store and well I sent him a text saying: Hi, I hope your feeling better. I just want you to know in case something happens to me that I have something for you. (the something is the letter.) then I left my phone in the room. and went to my in laws room, but he had sent me a text saying Hi, thanks but what do you mean happens to you? What’s wrong? I didn’t see then till later but was feeling really sick, then the house phone rings but his mom didnt hear it, then her cell rings and she gets it. then she gets up and says she has to use the bathroom and went to talk to him in the bathroom, idk what shit she was telling him. man, but I wil ask her later. so anyways this morning I sent him a text saying:Thank God i’m ok. thanks for asking, I was really scared last night. :-(, he wrote:well i’m sorry for whatever happened to you. take medicine and make sure you eat well. I wrote: yeah, thanks. he wrote: you shouldn’t diet by starving eat healthy and walk. (I think this is where his mother said stuff she shouldn’t have) I have no idea what she was saying. so I wrote: im not what are you talking about? then he wrote: if you open a bank account I can transfer the money directly to it,but for now I have to do money order. I wrote: what are you talking about.he wrote: ?? then, well I know it can be irritating having to cash money order. I wrote: om sorry for even texting and bothering you, have a nice day. if I ever feel sick again or anything rest assure you wont hear from me again. 
have a nice day. He wrote:No,(and my name) dont say that, just because we are seperated does not mean I dont care about you, I never wish you bad, I was just assuming that the stress was causing you to feel sick and wanted to help some of problems. I wrote: have a nice day. (and wrote his name in all capital letters) and he never texted me back. now I have to go ask her what he was saying and what she said. Im not sure if I should even give him my letter now. I feel so sad,scared and confused, and know hes gonna reject me because look at those texts. this aint fair, I may have lost him forever. when I see him in person Im gonna return the money order to him and tell him to give me cash or im breaking it. I cant deal with this anymore, this aint right or fair, hes so unreasonable. I hate this. what do ya think of this mess? of everything I wrote and of the text messages? thanks also should I still give him the letter?
btw I almost texted him, that I needed him and missed him so much when I was feeling sick, but thank God, I didn’t because look how he responded to the text.
I literally feel like im losing my temper, lol and im about to lash out on him. the only reason im not texting him stuff is so he cant use it against me in court. but im gonna be nice get him to give me the paper that says he pays me child support for government help and then give him his money order back saying to bring me cash or that hes gonna get it, I feel like i cant handle this situation anymore. its not fair, im not sure i even wanna give him the letter. I shouldn’t have to been going through any of this when Im not the one asking for it. I wish I never texted him last night, I feel like I hate him for everything he is putting me through. I cant take it anymore, im just gonna quit and give up.
I cant take it anymore and apparently I’ve already lost him, this is a lost cost and waste of time. im gonna tell him he better hurry up with the stupid divorce and that I n ever want to see him ever again in my life and that if something ever happens to me or when I die he surely better not be there, because I hate him to death. I shouldnt have to deal with the shit he is putting me through, I wish I could fine a way to get revenge towards him. i feel so hurt,sad, and depressed. i cant deal with this pain or any of it anymore, i might just even break the money order and give it to him.
Calm down!!! Everything is not so bad… I think right now your temper is getting the best of you. Take a deep breath, go for a walk and just find some peace of mind. I know it’s easier said than done but you’re a strong woman and you can do this!
I think that it was good that you texted him last night and it seems to me that he actually replied in a very very nice way whereas you seemed to get a bit angry with him. Remember - you need to at all times show yourself from your best side - that’s the way you get him back.
I think you should definitely still give him the letter - it seems that he still has lots of feelings for you and wants to work it out.
Remember that you’re the one who cheated on him and that he is hurt too - things will all work out!
thanks for your reply. your right I do let my anger get the best of me, I just feel really sad and really depressed and the way he keeps texting makes me believe that he wont work it out. I think I lost him forever already. Idk what to do anymore.
at the bottom of the letter I wrote: p.s. these are just my feelings nothing more nothing less. idk anymore, Im pretty sure I’ve lost him forever.
You haven’t lost forever! He was super nice in the texts he sent you so that’s a positive sign. I know you dont wanna hear this, but i think you weren’t so nice in the texts… if your not nice to him, he wont be nice to you. You are the one who is trying to win him back, not the other way round.
I really think that you should give him the letter.
I just want to text him and say I love you so much and miss you and want to be with you, and tell, him I need to cuddle, but I cant because he would reject me and I also feel like just giving him a big hug when I see him but he’ll push me away and say something stupid. I jst know it. im at my wits end here.
I honestly thought of writing another one but doing it how the plan says, but am not sure anymore. So im scared hes gonna reject me and say he appreciates it but he can’t be with me or whatever, at least it wont be so bad since all im saying is give me a chance to prove it to you and am offering a friendship instead of anything else, I hope it works. Im scared it’ll backfire. so how am I suppose to act on the texts with him? and I am angry at the fact that he keeps wanting prove for court meaning he wants the divorce and apparently theres no way out of it for me. I really hate this and then I start getting very depress and well feeling and thinking bad thoughts.
should I text him and apologize to him? should I ask him out somewhere?(he most likely will reject me) should I ask him to bring me my med since he works at the same store? should I ask him to change the money order for me or to give me cash in stead? idk what to do anymore. should I tell him that I still have something for him?(the latter) im at a lost right now and I dont know what to do. I also need him to sign a paper for me unfortunately. I feel like I’ve lost him as a spouse and mate forever.
so summary for today is: I’ve been depressed all day. after those texts he text if he could come get the kids. I never answered him. and the reason he text was because my kids called him and ask if they could spend the night. so he calls later and said he would come by to get them and I said no, (because he doesnt want me to go to where he lives, so I dont think its fair for him to come to where I live). anyways so we were gonna meet up at his job, but didnt go and he said he was gonna come really early to get the kids. on the phone he mention he was gonna have to go to court because of the kids,but I never told him he couldn’t see them. because according to him we need to plan something(after 1, I’ve told him when he can get them and 2, I’ve mention this to him a month ago when he told me about the papers.) why is he being such a prick? why is he trying to control when where and how he gets the kids?(he never called them yesterday either, they had to call him) and thinks he can do whatever he wants? I even sent him a text asking him for a link to some thing and he never answered me. we kinda got into a small argument on the phone but he was talking to his mother, not me as I didnt want to speak to him. so other then the above questions, should I still give him the letter? and then do no contact after the letter. meaning the letter could be a fair well. I’m realizing hes dead serious about the divorce and apparently I cant stop any of it. im not sure what to do anymore. and unfortunately is coming without permission. (because he doesnt want me going to where he lives) I dont think its fair. today I felt like I started at the very beginning idk. any advise? @cassie @clear
also do you think the letter would do anything? I think I already lost him already. idk what to do anymore. @cassie @clear
If you already think you’ve lost him, then why be afraid of giving him the letter? Just do it no matter what… “why is he being such a prick?” Because his hurt, no matter what he does you should just take it. Show him the nice side of you, not the bad one. Let him have his way
I honestly think you need to give him the letter as well. But honestly, if you keep fighting and argueing with him, he’s not going to take you back. You really need to show yourself from the best side
I forgot to mention that my oldest kept yelling shes crying, then my mother in law told him I was crying,(when I made a face to her, she said oh sorry)ugh, its not right that they were telling him and making me look “needy”. I just didn’t want to give him the letter because once he rejects me he’ll have me in the palm of his hands saying I can have her if I want to,ect. and I dont find it fair. but I’ll give it to him and expect the worse,which I already think its at that and regardless I wont make any illusions of getting him back. its sad and depressing but what can I do. I’ll give him the letter. I kinda kissed it with clear lip gloss lol and put oil perfume on it to make it smell good, so I kinda messed up the letter, lol, but will still give it to him. do you guys think its bad I did that?
Also so should I look for old notes or cards hes given me and make copies of it as well and hand them over to him? meaning waiting to give him the letter? or just give him the letter and not give him copies of the things hes written me? or should I not give him copies of the stuff he’s giving me at all? or should I just give him the letter first to see his reaction, before even considering doing so?
Damn, you seem to be really frustrated… Honestly, give him the letter and expect no response… What else can you do? You’re over thinking way to much