I hope not, why do you think that? also do you think I’ll honestly get him back?
If you get him back depends on how you handle the whole situation… if you do what everyone is advicing then I honestly think you have a good shot! You’ve been together for so long so he doesnt just forget…
I hope so, I have been trying to better myself, not argue with him, only talking about the kids, being nice ect, so lets see. ugh, lol…
You can do this!! 
I hope so, :-/
so hes here, and I saw him texting in his car before coming in. 
idk what to think about that. then he told my youngest to bring me the money. at least thank God it was cash this time. Im not thinking of going out to see him because of no contact. I feel really nervous Idk why. I miss him and feel bad hes texting other females. what do ya think? also do ya think its bad if I find guys to text with? I dont find it fair hes probably doing it and im not. also I havent gone out because i want him to wonder why I havent gone out there,but by the looks of it it seems he doesnt care. I miss him so much, idk what to do. I’ll keep ya updated if anything but im nervous, ugh,lol, but what do ya think? im going crazy here,
Hmm… dont worry too much about who he is texting, it’ll be just to make you jealous, a rebound or to get a reaction out of you. Since you’ve cheated on him I wouldnt suggest that you start texting other guys.
Stay strong
@bguarino, thanks
thanks cassie, he didnt even know I saw him so I dont think its to make me jealous or to get a reaction from me. :-/ also he left quick and left crying saying everything was going wrong. later he was talking to his mom on the phone and he was talking to her about our oldest how he was disappointed because he didnt expect at this age for these things to be happening. he also mentioned that he may step down from assistant meat manager, im not sure if this is a good thing or not. he then told her how he wanted to move far away from everyone and everything. that he could get a transfer with his job. funny thing is I told him a long time ago about moving and he never wanted to and look now. I think hes having his own midlife crisis apparently. it seems like hes going crazy. idk what to think of any of this as this has me confused. what do ya think of the situation? any advise, tips, anything. I feel very confused with everything going on,but with that said this is him just talking for now, so who knows if what hes saying is just that. thanks btw, idk if no contact is actually working, do you think it is?
Dont think too much about what he says or does - this is the no contact period so concentrate on yourself! Do what you’ve done the past few days
thank cassie, I will try, man I miss him so much and today is friday, :-/ ugh. I hope he misses me,but who knows. this is so hard. the last thing I would need would be for him to show up here, lol. now im finding myself having issues with my oldest, :-/ its always something. :-/ I’ll keep you updated on anything,
it could be that your oldest is acting out because of all this between you and your husband… it seems like your oldest is very involved
yes this is part of it and unfortunately yes, they know too much of whats going on, mainly my oldest.
hey ya, my husband called today and talk to my youngest, he even asked to speak with me and my youngest told him I was busy. I really was, lol I was painting my nails 
and he said ok don’t worry about it or something like that. also he asked my youngest if I was the one who asked about his finger (when he hurt it the other day) or if she asked about it. she said she ask(but really it was me), my kids know that I dont want them talking about me to him so my youngest told him that. (my youngest said she didnt like to lie and I agree with that but I also dont want to seem “needy” by asking about him.) so my question is can I use this to my advantage or will it make me seem “needy” if she tells him the truth? what do ya think? I saw he called again because I checked but no one knows he called and I didnt want anyone calling him. hes coming to pick them up tomorrow, so I may see him, I may be in my room like last time or maybe go some where depending on the time. also why do ya think he wanted to know? and do you think he misses me? thanks
also does it seem like I may have a chance? thanks
He obviously asked who asked about his finger for a reason? I think you should continue to do what your doing &
No don’t tell him that you asked… Your doing great! And yes he probably does miss you, don’t give up hope! 
@Aaron4 Thanks. I wonder what that reason was. :-/ well I left before he got here and for what I heard my oldest told me him put on makeup and left. lol, my mother in law said he was like thinking, lol. He came to drop off my youngest (my oldest didnt go with him, she stayed behind) and I think he was staring at me, funny thing is my was painting my oldest nails so I looked busy,happy (because I was laughing at my sister in laws friend) and confident because I was busy. he didnt stay long and said he was gonna go to rest to his mother. I miss him so much but im not sure if he misses me. also I had bought him food from McDonald’s because I bought for everyone, my oldest said he already had one but thinks he took it because it wasnt in my room anymore. is that a good thing? I was just buying for everyone and being nice. could that make me seem needy? because were always like that. also my oldest was telling him ya just need to get back together and stop this. I felt uncomfortable. :-/ I told her to stop that and respect and after he left she said, your welcome. omg lol. I said why did you do that he was probably making a face ect and she said he didnt. we didnt talk and I rarely payed attention to him, so I made him seem like hes just another person. ugh, I miss him. what do ya think? @cassie @clear @Aaron4 @a.z. anyone else? thanks
Sounds like you did everything rightm . don’t worry about the McDonalds from what you say I can’t see how it looks needy. You bought food for many people and he happened to have some. You played it cool while he was there which is exactly correct!
@bguarino thanks so am I doing everything correct?