My girlfrtiend broke up after 2 months of relationship

reconciliation
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Hello. Me and my girlfriend were together for 2 months, we were living together for most of the time, but now she moved back home, after the breakup.

It was like a fairytale most of the time, everything was great, with some pretty small fights. Like once she told me that I am no good in bed, which depressed me a lot, but I forgave her. She would often make comparisons with her previous relationships, including their sexual life, which wasn’t okay for me, and would freak me out almost every time, she would talk bad things about friends of mine she doesn’t know, which of course, would offend me. And when I freaked out about her losing my keys, she just said it’s over and we should break up. The first 2-3 days I’d try to contact her over Facebook and phone - she’d just hang up and ignore my messages. Now she started liking posts about break-ups in some Facebook groups and pages, and she constantly posts things in her profile showing how great she feels without me, just living her life. I suspect that she has found herself another guy that shes is dating. Is she still thinking about me, do you think there’s a chance of us getting back together, was this all a rebound relationship, because she had broken up with the guy before me 2 months before we got into a relationship? I’ve been doing NC for 3 days now but she hasn’t texted or called me.

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Hey man, your situation sounds tough. Obviously you should heed all the usual advice, focus on yourself, try hard not to think of her, keep yourself busy etc.

But I also know it eases the pain a little to hope reconciliation is possible, so I want to help you figure out your chances.

First and foremost, it seems like your desire to get back together is rooted in emotion and the desire to get rid of this pain you feel. You could cut your losses now and count yourself as lucky it was only 2 months. That’s the honeymoon phase and odds are she’d only hurt and offend you more if things went on longer.

The things she was saying about your bedroom skills and comparing you to past lovers is well beyond what a respectful, caring girlfriend should say. Ask yourself if you would logically be happy in that kind of relationship for a long time.

So with all that said, lets try to figure your chances. What was your relationship like before becoming intimate? Were you close friends? Was she friend of a friend you didn’t know so well?

How old are you two? What did you both do in your free time? Work, school, spent every waking moment together, etc?

How frequent were your fights and what was the timing/circumstances of her saying it’s over? How many days has it been since day 0 of the breakup?

I’m gonna be honest and say that yes, you were probably a rebound. 2 months isn’t enough time to get over someone and start something new. Don’t let this get you down though, hard as it may be.

As a final word of advice, stop looking at her facebook or pining over her. It will only hurt you. Reflect on yourself and figure out if you were ready for a relationship to begin with. If you weren’t that’s completely ok, understand that. It takes a big man to admit to himself he wasn’t prepared for what he got himself into. It’s fine, you will learn and this experience will make you wiser in the long run. You will better yourself and become more attractive for the next girl.

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We were pretty close friends prior to the beginning of our relationship. We could talk about pretty much anything and share our pains to each other. She’s 20, I am 22 years old. She works and goes to university in her free time, I use my free time to go to the gym and I also study in a different university. The fights would happen every other day, she said we should split one night when she came over to take part of her luggage. 2 days after that I handed her the rest of her stuff she had brought over.