Hi keiven I love your guide and I read it almost everyday to calm myself down and to get my head together. I have subscribed to your emails and they mean the utter world to me and I look forward to reading them each day they really comfort me sometimes. Anyways my story goes a little like this.
My girlfriend and I had been together for more than two years and we used to love each other a lot but lately I got really bad grades in my last academic school year so I had to get ready for some retakes and stuff which caused me to start having anxiety and panic attacks but that’s all taken care of by my therapist now. So since I got bad grades I stopped spending as much time as I used to with her so I could study at home and bring a goood change in me. In the mean time she spent time with other guys and socialised and stuff and we started to get into a lot of fights and stuff because other guys were getting all handsy with her and I didn’t like it. Anyway one day she broke up with me and said she wants to be single now and be selfish now and just be single without any strings attached and she hurt me a lot. She said she wants to talk to who she wants and be with who she wants without being called out for it. I was heartbroken because I had made so many sacrifices for her gave up so many things for her and she is being selfish now and only thought about herself now. She said she loved me and all but she wanted to stay away from me. Keiven I started no contact a couple of days ago and it’s been day 10 she’s all I think about and she is all I care about these days but she is changing into a hideous hideous person and it hurts. I don’t think she misses me or cares about me anymore. I did mess up the first step of the guide and I did beg her and plead her not to do this but I guess you were right she was ready to go through it all. I just really want to bring that positive change in myself and become that attractive person but I feel so miserable without her. Can you give me some tips how to get her out of my mind and focus on myself now? I see her everyday almost since we go to the same college and its gut wrenching to see her so happy and to see her being so normal she used to cry a lot sometimes even in public when we used to fight she used to be so sensitive but now there is nothing she feels no remorse or pain that she ruined by life and shattered me. I really want to get back with her but this time I don’t want us to fight and her to yell at me. But I’m so lost. Please help me your reply would mean the utter world to me.
Me and my ex have been broken up for 2 weeks now and I felt exactly like you do and I thought things would never get better but let me stress this to you. IT GETS BETTER! I thought I would never be happy again but after reading this all and get emails it helps a lot. You think you’ll never be happy again but trust me that’s all a load of crap because it does get better. You’all have days where you’ll feel like shit because I cried like a baby 2 days ago even though I thought I was better but it will get better.
Me and my ex dated for 4 years and she broke up with me because she needed to focus on school and I was to needy which sounds like you have that problem as well so during no contact you need to work on that. You need to become more improved then before so take a trip, go out with your freinds, and even go talk to some more girls. I’m trying all this and it will help you realize that you don’t need her to be happy. I want me ex back more then anything in the world but take some time for yourself man. Figure out how to be happy without her and when you do that contact her again and show her that you are a new and improved version of yourself. Improve yourself and become happy without her and if you can do that then getting her back will be easier. It’s not an easy thing to do and I’m still working on that as well but if we become better versions of our selfs and become confident and happier we will get our exs back.
If you need more help from me shoot me an email [email protected] because it sounds like we’re going through the same crap and it hurts so if u need someone to talk to don’t be afraid to send me an email
Hey @mattthegreat1455 and @Imjustsleepy…
My case is very similar to both of u…my ex-gf broke me on 25th sept after 3.5 year of very healthy lovely nd caring relationship…we decided to spend our whole life together…but suddenly all happened just within 1-2 day…
As we are belongs to same place but living in different cities so its a LDR but we see each other after every 2 months nd in vactions we spend 1-2 months together…all was quite well and settled but suddenly when she shifted to a new house with her roommates she found some boys there she made general f’ship with her…but i felt bad as i never did this stuff and never made any type of connection with any girl though i m in co-ed but she took me wrong and told that i m restricting her freedom…and then she made me realise my mistakes that i did 2 years before then fought with me and left me…i begged her 1000 times but she said she hate me she never wanna come back she is happy in her life…but she loved me madly till 3.5 years i am everything for her but now there is nothing …suggest me something i m very miserable and want her back at anycost…
Read my post above because it will tell u exactly what to do and it goes for you to. You will relalize you don’t need her to be happy and you will become a better person for it. You need to show your happy and aploligize to her for being so needy when she broke up with you and begin no contact. Have fun during no contact because that’s what I’m doing and honestly I’m becoming a happier person. I thought I would never be happy again after the break up but man it will get better just you wait. It will always get better. Just go out and have fun and improve yourself and even if she doesn’t want you back, you will be a become a better person from the no contact period.