My ex wants us to become friends with benefits

Hello,
Well, my ex just broke me 3 weeks ago, i have OCD and ADHD and she said she can’t handle it anymore. I was violent and even threatened her that i would kill her if she left me.She didn’t dare to meet me for a few days but she still did in the end. We were in a normal relationship for 7 months and did long distance for 4 weeks, Im in Perth, she’s in Singapore. Though i fly back once every three weeks.

I met her few days ago to celebrate her birthday, i have tried to get her back for the past three weeks with no success but two days ago i told her to promised me the day after her birthday on the phone that if she wants to date or get a bf she would come back to me instead of finding other guys. She promised and it seems like she meant it. Though she told me she doesn’t want a bf or anyone to tie her down for a few years. I don’t understand, she loved me so much before, she called me her husband, gave me her virginity and we even tattooed each others names on our backs. I didn’t text her for a few days and told its because i want some peace and quiet for a while. She seems pretty happy that I’m not bothering her. She’s an introvert.

I don’t know, she has finals this year and she even said she would come to Perth next year but all seems bust now. What should i do? Ill do anything to get her back.

Thanks
Cal

Hi,

I think you should give her some space and time. Time is so important in break ups and I think you need some time out too. You both need to clear your heads and distance yourself from the negativity.

Start 30 days no contact from today, it’s hard but it will give you both space. Good luck