Hello,
Im not best in english, so sorry for my grama.
I got really thought situation. I was with my girlfriend almost 1 year, when it started to be serious i wasn’t able to tell her back that i love her, but i really care about her. The truth is i was chained by previus 5 years old relationship.
I saw it was driving me crazy as i wanted to get it out of my mind as it was blocking me to be with my new girlfriend for 120%. So i decide that is to hard for me and i need to go to psychology doctor, and for that moment i feel that i need to do that alone, so we decide to “break” for that time.
During that period i was going to doctor every week, she remove me from friend on facebook and didnt contact for some time, but after i started to be better and feel better i conatct her and we start texting all days, we start meeting after work(problem is we working toghether in the same company).
Last 2 months was really great or i just thing about it like that as we spend together almost all the time we can, we was texting all day and night. I get my cloths, and cosmetics at her house. When i sleep in her house, just before going sleep she came to my bed and lay down next to me for like 10 min in close distance and we was just looking on eachother.
When we was with friends they was sure that we were back together, as we was talking, joking, looking into eyes like there was huge emotions between us.
But when i told her that my treatment give resaults and i finally can be with her on 120% and with every day my feelings grow up, she cut me off. She stop anserw my text, she just totaly no-contact me or just texting really small messages.
After 1 week when i started to be really sad we got conversation and she told me that i give her a lot of happinies, i was important but its not her and my fault, but she dont wont to be together anymore. “Not now, not in the future.” she said. When i ask her why, she told that when my feelings was rising her was on the same level and didnt rise.
Now after that conversation its almost 3 weeks, there was 2 weeks totaly no contact, now i see her only in work and we have to talk if needed about work. On first meet after that 2 weeks she ask me to make her coffe, and that was only question. Other was only about work.
The last improtant thing is during that period she get involved with someone and that someone was a girl. But for that girl it was only fun and she started slowly to thing that this girl are serious. After that girl told her on our company party that it was only for fun and she got girlfriend my ex asked me to stay for night in my home. It ends on sleeping togheter. After that we was still meeting almost every free time, going to restaurants, she text me that shes worried that shes pregnat and when i ask her what can i do to make her feel better she text me “No metter what just promise me you wont leave me” and i replay that how she could even think i could leave her.
So my question is, if last 2 months so much things happen, is it possible that shes just confused about all of it, and thats why she told me she dont want to be with me? As i got mess in my head why she told that and if she know that before why she was so close with me, texting all the time, going to restaurants, letting me sleep and kee things in her place? Texting me things like that i mentioned before? My friends told me that this can be just her way to deal with her own feelings and she need time and she was scared about my confesion that i want her back. Is it possible that she still got some feelings to me and what can i do right now to make it work in future. I dont want to lose her. But for now i know she dont want to thing about it and im scared that there wont be anymore “US”. Is it possible that with time she will change her mind??
She is confused. Give her some time off. At work you try to be as cool as possible in your behavior. Dont try to get into emotional talks as much as you can. Let her figure out what she wants.