My Ex is Seeing a Therapist & I Don't Know What to do

reconciliation
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My ex is seeing a therapist for all the bs I put him through. And looking back on it, I’ve done some stuff that is REALLY not okay. I’m afraid that by seeing these professionals, my ex will be swayed away from coming back to me. I understand that he needs to sort out his feelings about our relationship, but I can’t help but fear that these people will make terrible assumptions about me and our relationship without getting to really know me and know us. He’s in a vulnerable state and very angry and resentful of how our relationship turned out, and I’m afraid that talking to these people will further push him away.

I am also worried that during the No Contact period these negative associations about our relationship won’t dissipate. Sure he’ll miss me, but with what I’ve put him through, I’m afraid that he will hold on to that and never come back to me because of it.

Please help!!

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@Aliaz263 - Seeing a therapist is a good thing for his own well being and trying to sort out his feelings and emotions. I understand your fear, but you should be happy for him and maybe even consider therapy for yourself and your own issues. I don’t know how long you were together, but apparently your behavior negatively affected him to the point he was unhappy being in a relationship with you and wanted to end things. If you don’t change the way you interact with people, he might not want to get back with you, so the only hope is to make self improvements. Of course he will hang on to resentments for quite a long while, but over time, he will think more of the positive aspects and less of the negative. You could even extend no contact for much longer than a month if you need to.