My ex asked to see me

My ex and I have been broken up now for over 6 weeks. I contacted him at the end of no contact on 8/11. I received a response but it was rather lukewarm.

Then last week, he texted me out of the blue. We chatted back and forth for a few days. He was being very sweet and a bit flirtatious but nothing crazy. The last time we texted was on Saturday and he asked if I’d like to get together for dinner later this week. I said sure and let him know my availability. He said we would figure something out.

It’s now Wednesday and I’ve heard nothing from him. I told him I could meet on either Thursday or Friday. Should I follow up and ask or just wait for him to follow up?

He is a good man and I don’t believe he’s game playing but have to admit I’m frustrated that he hasn’t reached out to follow up yet. He knows I’m a planner and he is as well.

The whole reason for him ending it with me was that he was scared of failing at another relationship. He’s been married/divorced twice and he was scared of another failure. We always had a kind, loving relationship. He fell into a pretty bad depression around that time as well.

While I’m trying to be patient, I also don’t want to play some cat and mouse game.

Hey @kb1996 it sounds like he wants to talk with you, but may be feeling a little pressured.

Maybe try organizing something yourself for the both of you, it might help to relieve a bit of pressure from him.

The other thing you could do to help relieve some pressure is maybe organize a lunch, instead of a dinner. I often find lunches produce less pressure for anything afterwards than dinners, and if the lunch goes really well, it can lead into dinner and more without the pressure of initial conceptions.