HEY!!
so I know from his mother that he has finally his motorbike!!, so I’m thinking of call him and ask him if he get it.
Any advice of how to lead the conversation? and not making mistakes?
wow this is really important I need to do this right
ok ok I called him…wow I’m out of energy now ahahahah.
so the conversation was not too long but not too short and dry. I had a great tone of voice , I was friendly, funny and happy.
I asked about the motorbike like…how was it,was it perfect,how many km ecc ecc.
Then we joked about the things he did to not let him be robbed again, like he locked it with three chains, we laugh a bit and then I said that I was happy for him for finally have it.
He said thanks and then I said somenthing general and harmless to end the conversation, so we greeted eachother and that was it.
I’m proud that my voice wasn’t shaking, I’m shaking now but I think that’s for the tension.
I’ll probably rethink about every second of that conversation and I’ll be a little insicure…so let me know how you think that went…it would be a lot to me
Guilia,
I feel like your situation is a lot like mine!!! Read my thread if you would! I plan on commenting on your thread later tonight!
well done !!! i think ur doing really great just don’t show him u want to get back with him badly 
Now is the time to be patient Guilia and wait awhile. I think it went great.
First, what he’s most likely thinking.
- He recognizes your being:
-friendly
-interested
- He’s feeling good and is left with a positive thought of you.
What not to do now
-Call him anytime soon. Wait at least a week with no contact unless he contacts you.
I wouldn’t want it to seem that your getting desperate and showering him with too much attention. A little void and mystery will be more attractive I think.
Picture this time as giving him water. He’s hydrated now. In time he’ll start to get a little thirsty. Then hand him a glass. But giving a glass after glass when he’s already “hydrated” now might be too much.
I’d be patient and wait a bit. In my opinion. Other than that its looking good in my opinion.
You all right…it’s just me the problem ahhaha I mean I’m so eager to start the false friendship.
The thing is…I know that I have to wait and all, but the problem is that with a little of summer left (I’m a university student, so apart from study I have free time) I think it’s the best period to let him see the new me.
Another thing is that all our friends are mutual ( they’re no many, but we’are a great group), apart for two of my closest friend who are away now, so he gets to spend time with them and have fun, while I’m obliged to stay at home.
Do you see the problem? I want to go out with everyone, but I can’t because he’s with them most of the time…and I can’t do noting but wait, and it’s so unfair a stressful!
I have so many proposals for all of us for the rest of the summer and I know that if they accept we’ll have so much fun and he’ll see how much I’ve changed…but if I can’t even have the occasion to suggest them,then what I’m gonna do?
I can’t wait forever…summer’s almost over, I don’t have much time , but as you says I need to wait for him because I can’t seems needy and desperate…
you see?..I’m stuck
Hey,
sorry for delay.
You were great and everything you are feeling right now,is normal.
now calm down,be patient and wait for him to contact you.
Don’t rush things and be cool and confident.
sigh …Deep down I know that I have to…
God it’s so hard ahahahahah, but I can’t trow away what I’ve done until now…uugh
Just something I’ve been thinking…
I remebered that just after he broke up with me, I asked him (crying) if we can still be friends at least,I didn’t want him out of my life and I know he didn’t want it either.
He answered : well yes we can…but what about if you see me with another girl? you’ll just feel bad and start crying again.ecc ecc.
At the time I didn’t have the strenght to answer him , and I didn’t thought about it for some time after.
But now…what if I talk to him about staying friends ( false friendship) and he respond with the same topic?..like what if you see me with another girl?
what would be the perfect answer to that?
You don’t need to say anything .for now,just act like friends.and when you are having a communication use the word friend or a word that you call your friends.or you can simply say that your glad your friends.
If he says anything like that again,be cool and say That you’r totally ok with that.also show that you are having a great time in your life.
So you’re saying to don’t have a coversation between us where I make things clear?
Like: I want to stay friends,I’m totally cool with that,I accepted the break up,so I want to continue to hang out with everyone…
because that was actually my plan…I thought that if I told him how things were,he might relax a bit about everything,and maybe he could feel more incline to hang out with me in the group
and after that if he says the thing about seeing him with someone told him that I’m ok with that…
Before reading your answer I thought of telling him that the same thing goes for me…I mean if he sees me with someone else,so there is no problem.
Because I don’t think that he’ll let me get away from just saying that I’m ok with that,I’m afraid that he’ll see the “lie” or he will not believe that
what all of you think?
You should act like friends and use the word friend like once or twice.
If he mentions anything about that,say that you just wanna be friends…,and that both of you are single and that may happen to both of you soon.so it’s cool.
Ugh here are 6.10p.m they usually go out at 9:30p.m, but they always call eachother about it.
I’m almost restless,waiting for at least a message to hang out,don’t expect a call…but at least a message…ugh
I think that if I don’t hear anything from anyone I’m gonna be so depressed thinking what I did wrong ,where I made mistakes in all of this,like…I did nothing right and I’m still hopeless and that I have to start everything again…
…you’re positive that I shouldn’t be the one to ask what are they doing tonight and if I can join them?
damn ,he so so so thick when it comes to other people…how can I let him see me 2.0 if he don’t fucking call me out…aaargh I’m so angry
I totally understand you but you did nothing wrong and i suggest you to give him some time like 2 weeks and then contact him again.but i think he will contact you during this time.
I don’t know if I can wait 2 whole weeks…that’s too much, in the end I’ve already communicated with him both message and calls (the ones that I’ve told about, I didn’t do nothing since the last time).
And when I asked him in the message if they were doing anything that night,he told me that they were already out and already spent money ecc ecc, but the next time we would hang out.
If he was not his intention to meet up, he wouldn’t suggested it…right?
I know that all of you are saying to wait for him to call or to contact me…but I pretty sure he won’t…just because he’s like that, I on’t knw how to explain it.
I remenber one of kevin e-mails about CONSISTENCY…I’m afraid that if I don’t do something he’ll stay in that phase, I maybe be the one who’ll have to wake him up from that…
I’m so confused, I want to call him or message him, whatever, about tonight, but at the same time I’m not sure, especially because of what you all said.
I talked to his mother, and she thinks that I should contact him to ask him about tonight.
I told her that I don’t want to seem needy ,weak,desperate or that I’m trying to do something, and she told me that she thinks that asking him what are they doing tonight may seems just an harmless question. She said to be honest and said that since my friends are away and since that I don’t see the other for quiet some time if it would be a problem if I joined them…
I DON’T KNOW GUYS…I’M SO CONFUSED AND STUCK RIGHT NOW…DAMN =(
Hey I feel like we’re in the similar situation that we still love each other but there’s too much stress and things in life going on.
And I think you’re doing great!!!
Just my ex-boyfriend and I were actually in the long distance relationship… If you’re interested, take a look at my post
https://www.forum.exbackpermanently.com/boards/topic/may-seem-impossible-but-i-want-to-try-my-best-to-get-back-with-him/
I know how you feel but i suggest you to be more patient.he is not gonna move on or anything in 2 weeks.and i’m pretty sure that you can handle that.and trust me you should be more patient during the falsefriendship period cuz you can’t be in touch with him like every day.and there will be days that you may not hear about him more than 2 weeks.that shouldn’t make you nervous or disappointed at all.cuz you know that you have a plan and you should follow that.
A friend of mine in this website got her ex back a few days ago,and i never saw someone more patient than him.he is an actual champ.he followed NC,contacted her ex,he created the falsefriendship,he new her ex was dating a guy during that time,he followed his plan and he got her back.
The decision is yours and i will always support you.
Best of luck
It’s not that Im afraid that he’ll move on ,really…It’s just that I really want to come back in touch with everyone, because for now I’m actually alone and I could use a bit of fun-nights out.
The fact is that I didn’t almost start the false friendship because we still didn’t go out all together.
We just saw eachother for an emergency and we just sent those messages and a call, that’s all…I don’t know this count as a start to falsefriendship?
For an update…I’m staying home tonight too… -__-, ugh
You can’t jump into the falsefrienship right after you contacted him.he needs some time so he can believe that you want to be friends not falsefriends.
If you keep contacting him/asking him out during a short period of time,he may think of that as a sign that you can’t wait to get him back.
You will go out with them.
have you thought about maybe going out with other guys and making that public to him? Make it seem like your going out with a big group of friends but be interested in one person in particular most of the night. Seeing you having fun and being relaxed with another guy, even tho there may be nothing there, might be the jealousy he needs to make a move on you