Great job! I agree that we can’t make it easy for them 
Also, I just wanted to mention that my ex and I had been texting for a day or two after we met at the coffee shop, so I knew he was interested in something. Honestly, I was hoping it meant he wanted to get back together, but more on that later…
So overall, I had a really great time at the party yesterday, but there were some low points for my ex. I knew (and everyone else could tell) that he was following me around and talking to me a lot. He also started touching me a little bit (nothing inappropriate, just flirty stuff). He ended up walking me to my friend’s apartment to use the bathroom, and while we were in there, he led me into one of the bedrooms. At first, I thought, “Oh, maybe he wants privacy to talk” (that was the sweet innocent girl in me), but then I realized he probably wants to hook up.
Which was the case. He didn’t necessarily say he wanted sex, but he started hugging me and tried to get me to lay down on the bed with him. So then I got up and said we have to talk first, and he wouldn’t really say anything, so I basically said you can’t have the benefits of being my boyfriend after you broke up with me.
I ended up getting a little upset with him later, and he apologized. I knew that that’s not the type of person he is and that he was sincerely sorry, so I asked if he wanted to go out and talk to make it up to me - which he did! We ended up going out for drinks and dinner and had a really great time! I could tell he has a wall up between us, but I know that’s just because he’s still confused about the breakup and unsure about me. We also briefly ended up talking about the party and I told him that I forgave him and we don’t have to talk about it anymore, and (for once) he actually said it’s okay if I wanted to talk about it more!
He was also very respectful and gentlemanly throughout the night. I know that the main reason could be that he still just wanted sex, but it was still really nice! And it showed that he is trying. However, there was A LOT of sexual tension between us and as the night went on we both started flirting more and we ended up sexting each other a little bit…
Also, just want to mention that he tried to make it clear that he’s not looking for a relationship with me (at one point, he said our relationship “needed to end” and while we were sexting he said that he wanted to make it clear that this was a casual thing). However, I think this is a normal thing for him to say since he ended the relationship.
Long story short - my ex has mixed feelings and is still super attracted to me. I was able to stand my ground by not letting him do anything physical (except short hugs and putting his arm on my shoulder), but we ended up sexting a little bit. At first, I thought this was a mistake and could set us back (which it still has the potential to), but I’m thinking as long as I don’t give in and sleep with him, this could be good for us? I don’t know, what do you guys think? Any advice?