thing is, im not a club type person or things like that, i need to figure out a way of meeting someone for a date somehow
could try a dating site or something
Honestly. Replacing her won’t help. You need time. Yes… it will hurt for a while. But I tried the whole being with another person deal… the whole time I thought about her. Even in bed. So yeah. It takes time. Just try to improve yourself and sadly admit that she might never come back. It will get tough and lonely… and most likely no one except this board will know what you are going through. Just work on you… and I wish you the best. Don’t fall for her attention traps.
It really depends from person to person. It might help some, It might not help others. Meeting people and going on dates wont be all that bad. Just go with an open mind, focus on who is in front of you, enjoy your time with that person. You arent gonna be looking for the love of your life. Just distract yourself and think you are making afriend. I remember clearly the first times I could actually go out of the house and be hours with barely thinking about him. I was amazed. I started to actually enjoy myself and started living life for me. Then dated. I cried the two times I was alone with him. And cried on a night out after getting drunk and he was there too. But it made me feel more confident. He was nice and cute it helped a lot. I enjoyed being with him.
One thing I learned is dont try to mask the pain in the beginning when its really bad. Dont drink or zone out or go have one night stands. Deal with it cold and raw. But then just put in your mind that you NEED to live your life. This is your life. Your life isn’t about someone else, it’s about you. Go out there, do things you’ve never done, see the great in life.
About clubs, maybe you need one or two vodkas? Have you really tried going clubing or just 1 or 2 times? 
I loved it before now not so much, but can still enjoy it cause I love dancing and meeting new people
@Thargus you need her out of your system! Focus on yourself, try new things and if you think going on a date would help maybe try that too. It’s all cliche but very true, you simply need to rid yourself of the burden of your past relationship.
If she contacts again, unless it’s to meet up and talk about things, ignore it. If she does care about you, she’d give you the time and space you need to heal, and you are still healing!
I’d even say if it gets to the stage where it’s too much for you, tell her that you need sometime and space to sort things our in your head and to get over her.
agree with ty10 again
Oh, when I said if you dated someone tomorrow she would cry and beg, I meant if you started a relationship with someone else. It wasnt a suggestion. Just what I think would happen
Everything kaila has said is 110% true and spot on. Listen to her in this situation, and you’ll go far.
Just wondering how everyone is getting on?
Well on my end… things suck.
Well, my ex and I were better… then her parents made a huge deal about her going to a party that was at my house (her phone died and she got home at almost 6 am) we had a blast, ended up kissing, then well as I took her home… things got hot and heavy in the car. we spoke briefly after… she told me if we kept doing this we would get back together in two weeks and I said we weren’t ready for that and she doesn’t want that either. I told her only way is to grow and see later one day if maybe we can start a brand new relationship since last one didn’t go well for a reason. She fought with her parents after that night and told me she needed space… I gave it to her but I caved in after a while but little by little we started speaking again and she became more herself than before… apparently she told her parents she was gonna move out and then her parents came to an agreement with her so she stayed (so close-her parents and sis are a hug problem) I kinda think that was a step forward for her but at the same time she is stuck in a way… she says she is feeling better and also growing and feeling better with herself… 2 says ago I needed help to study for my finals and I was clear to her I just needed help not a fuck or a drink with her or nothing. She came, playful as usual, helped me… and then she suggested we should get a beer cause she said she had an amazing plan and place. We jammed all the way to the place and had a blast… The place was fun… we talked we laughed, brought up past sex stories between us (she usually brings them up but I remind her sometimes of certain things) we are like magnets… We want each other but have to lie to each other, I said some things to get a little leverage but in the end it was a positive result that night. Then the time to get home she took me to my car… she told me to wait till the song I put on spotify was over (it was sheeran) we hugged. After a while I caressed her… we kissed again passionately. we could both feel it. Intense. Then we went to my car cause we needed to be quick (which we never are) The most intense passionate… well you get the point, it was incredible as usual. We just have that ultimate connection everywhere and in bed its just as amazing. Then time to said goodbye came and we were out of breathe, sweaty and we laughed for a bit and she had to get home quick so we kissed one last time. told her not to kiss me like that next time she sees me as a joke to which she replied… Yes! We have to turn the switch off! (it was funny). I led the way home… she texted me good night… we still talk a bit but I don’t want to push it. I know we still need a lot of time. I just don’t know… if I should feel good or… idk. mixed feelings. sorry for the long post guys. thanks !
Just wondering…how is everyone getting on a year later?
Things went really dark on my end… but I’m still recovering. She found a man not long after… good looking guy, friends called me not long ago and asked if I was ok. I said yes, why? They said cause of what she posted on her social media. I said I didn’t want to know. But I expected pregnancy or Marriage. She just turned 24 now. Didn’t contact her for her bday. Since feelings of pain and resentment are still there and I dream about her constantly. It sucks but somehow I’ve been living my life and getting stuff done. Not just moping around for a whole year… someone came up to me at a party and told me that she got engaged to the guy… it’s been a freaking year or a bit more. I found out anyways, I guess it sucks… though I wish her the best… I don’t get around to forgiving her . How are you and the rest of you? Hope this message found you well.