Amy send me your email… I think you should create another email cause you are the one with the most experience and we would all like to reach you individually. =)
Robert I think you should send her at least an happy birthday text and that was great advice for @Thargus. I feel she has been playing with you, she has no right in being angry or upset. If she is it’s because she cares and you should leave her wanting more. I would even say next time she invites, say you are busy again. This time don’t say for what. Get used to not giving her explanations. She has nothing to do with it - this is how she should feel. You are escaping her thru her fingers, she no longer has an hold on you, you are moving having other things to do without her
@Robertizle I have to agree what everyone else has said on your situation.
Take @amy111 point on sending the letter. You’ll want a reply and if you don’t get one it’ll hurt more. Until I found out that my ex had joined Tinder the week after she broke up with me I was going to send one as I genuinely believed I had caused some issues and was going to apologise in the hope that she would get back in contact. Looking back it was mainly her (not playing the blame game since we all make mistakes).
I wrote the letter but thankfully found out she’d been looking elsewhere immediately after she said she didn’t have time for a relationship… it now sits in my drawer at home, I won’t send it. Today was my end of 30 day NC, but reading what Amy wrote about silence and through her experience - I knew the best way of letting my ex becoming intrigued is by keeping a low profile on social media and by having No Contact whatsoever. I know she is intrigued too because she’s still looking at every single one of my snapchat stories and hasn’t deleted me off FB etc.
@Amy you give really sound advice… is there any way i could contact you via e-mail please… I would love your help… i really need it
@kaila or @robertizle can i contact you guys through e-mail? i would really appreciate it
@Robertizle - I’ve sent you an e-mail. please check spam just in-case hotmail sends it there.
ooops sorry ive been a bit of a mad woman recently running around doing bits and bobs!
Thargus - “amy i have a question, what would your opinion be if she was to turn around and be very unhappy/annoyed with me for being distant etc?”
She has no right to be angry or annoyed at you. Quite frankly, if she did that I would think it would be extremely inconsiderate of her. She was the one who broke up with you, who said she didnt want to be with you. The fact that she still says to you to drop her stuff off e.t.c is really cheeky. if she does get angry, she has no reason too, and obviously shows she still cares!
robertizle - say happy birthday, but dont offer to take her out for coffee. you have no reason to now!
i dont think ill give out my email, but am very happy to help on here 
No worries Amy.
So, basically i dated my ex for like 4-5 years. I’ve known her for over a decade. We weren’t in touch in the middle for 3 years after the break-up. Last one year we have been speaking on and off. We fought towards the end of March because there was some guy who had come to see her for an arranged marriage. After that I didn’t speak for a month and she contacted me saying she wants to meet. I said postponed it and then again she texted me to meet. I postponed but then we bumped at a bar that weekend and we spoke for like 5 minutes. Then we started speaking again and I found myself asking her for more in less than a weeks time. She said that because we have dated other people nothing can happen between us and she doesn’t feel the same way as she did during those times. She wants to try to be best friends. In the middle we fought and stuff because I made the mistake of being needy and desperate. But now we are being friends.
The thing is a friend of mine introduced her to another guy saying, both of you are looking for an arranged marriage why don’t you guys meet up and see. They’ve been meeting and speaking for almost a month now and that got me really insecured. I honestly believe we two can work things out because we know each other better than anyone else. I do not believe that best friends or even good friends can happen especially since we dated for so long. Now, her best friends wants her to date and marry me. If I have to marry someone right now, I would only consider her. I would love to try things out once again. The problem is I am leaving town in two weeks time for a year and will have to fly back over the weekends to meet her. We met two days back and had a really great time. She’s out of town to attend a family wedding and will come back tomorrow. She hasn’t texted me since we met. How do I proceed? Is there any other details you want? Her family loves me and have even asked her to marry me. She wants to be best friends If this guy moves out of the picture, I think in a month’s time I could work things around. Should I do NC again?
Robertizle is helping me out. I really appreciate this! He has told me to go NC again and I think he is right. Are your views any different?
Thanks
im really considering just biting the bullet and just see her as normal. its been since january 30th, thats quite a long time and im sure im fighting a loosing battle here…
maybe just work on being friends, and i can go on a few dates here and there. see what happens. for the sake of my friends to be honest.
thargus… that’s exactly what my friends tell me except its almost impossible to be just friends
They say it’s not possible to be friends. I get it. But after the 30 day NC I will contact her to have some coffee. Also bite the bullet. Go out and chill. Talk. After I send the text to her. Then little by little just build. If it doesn’t happen. Then it doesnt. At least I tried and she missed out on happiness. It happens s all the time… people give up diamonds for rocks. I’ll be fine. But I’ll also be the mature one. I’m tired of little kid stuff… she doesn’t want to go out with me to have coffee or something… big deal, I trained myself for the worst anyways. And there is nothing else she can do to cause me more pain. Damage was already done with the previous relationship. So why not.
People give up diamonds for rocks. That’s so goddamn true. I wish all you guys the best of luck. Not really in the best position to help out now. Will try later
Hey guys can someone talk to me? 
i’m kind of sad and don’t know who to share with
Hey sorry… email me. It’s up there ! I might take a but long. I’m out. But bill try my best to help! No one should be alone when they happen… I understand!
i will, please check!! Thank you @robertizle!
Ok I’ll check right now, guys I have a thought. Weird and low… probably a cheap shot. Or a shot in the dark. But, what can we all do together to make each one of us look awesome in social media or something … that our ex’s can see? Like… if we all put our heads together and make it look like we are helping the world or something or everyone posts a big thank you on our walls on fb and ppl see this… our exs will see. And be intrigued… childish …maybe. but it can be a hell of an attention grabber for our exs… idk. Could be cool. Let’s try it out?? Use one of us as an experiment haha. I know silly but… thoughts anyways.
Ok so I sent this part of my response too but it didn’t come out on my screen…@hensey. I didn’t get any email from you :/. And. If we put our heads together… we can create something smart to help each other. Powerful!
So she finally text me last night, and this is what she said. My mind is all over the place…
“Fancy going to the cinema Sunday night?”
45 minutes later she text me this
"Cool beans. I finish work at 5. So if you meet me there we can go ? "
Then this one straight after…
"Haha I wrote that out just in case you said yes lol "
Now, I didn’t even reply to any of those texts, and I still haven’t. Unsure of what to think…
I mean anyone else you would think that clearly screams interest. My mind!
@Robertizle Can you check the spam box? Is it your email:?? [email protected]. I did send it again hope it’s not considered as spam.
Is there much point of this forum if we are all going to use emails to communicate now though?