Say, hey I would really like too! And make up an excuse… and don’t stay home… really do something. Say something like I would really like too! But I actually had something planned tomorrow, Rain check? And make sure of she says… she is going at a certain time… that you have things to do. Remember… she is on your time not the other way around. It’s not when she can, it’s when you can. Be selfish. Don’t sound rude… but you also have a life besides her 
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Yup, Robertizle is totally right 
say you would love to, but you already have plans. dont be supper apologetic though. If she asks what it is be smart. Don’t give her a straight answer, don’t tell who you’ll be with, leave her wondering, act like you are seeing someone but don’t say it. You can say like you are still not sure, or just that you are going out, something like that.
Sorry been so slow on this was a hectic week/weekend!
I agree with everyone on here thargus when I say don’t go to the boxing, make up an excuse, be vague, leave her wondering
Things with my “boyfriend” are good so far…though we haven’t had the boyfriend/girlfriend talk yet. I stayed at his dad’s at the weekend which was nice but he’s going on holiday with that group of people in 2 weeks and I’m nervous…he’s still been liking quite a lot of the girls (the one who stayed round his whilst we were broken up-he said nothing had happened but still) photos (ones of her in very skimpy dresses, showing lots of leg/cleavage etc)
And apparently it’s going to be a big drinking/party holiday…guess I’m just a bit nervous 
@amy111 definitely have the chat before he goes. It’ll put your mind at ease.
Out of interest Amy, I think my ex has got the ‘grass is greener’ feeling and was wondering since you went full NC for months if that would be the best thing for me to follow?
ty10 - Yeah, hes invited me over for the weekend before he goes, so ill ask him then
and i would definately recommend it. It made me realise i was too good for him, and make him realise that too. it also made me improve my confidence and in general made me a more attracitve person! the old adage “you always want what you cant have” works, honestly
if i ever felt like i was going to text him i wrote on here 
it really helps!
Glad you are back amy… missed you hahaha. I asked u something a while back but u were busy. I think it was about the NC rule… and idk if you remember my story but do you think afte month exactly I should write the letter or text her? I think texting is better cause a letter seems a bit too much… but in the texting aspect… she can never answer and I’ll she if she read it and doesn’t answer … a letter is like… boom. Makes things more intriguing I guess…
i responded just saying i cant make it tomorrow, i have my chiropractor in the morning (which is actually true so i wouldn’t be able to go anyway) and she didn’t reply. it was the best thing i could have done i think because it was also truth.
Robertizle I just read your story again-I really don’t think yo Should write or do either. What would that gain for you? If she doesn’t reply, you’ll be upset. If you think writing a letter saying how much you care, thanks for the great relationship, hope your okay etc is going to get her back, I don’t think it will. she knew, and knows how much you care- you don’t need to tell her. She has made a decision, and she needs to sit on it and realise what life is like without you. Carry on with no contact. You will feel SO much better after-the first month or two are th hardest-trust me! I spoke to mine everyday for - 3 and a half years, and the amount of times I wrote out texts or messages saying stuff like “hey hope your well, just wanted to say I’m really sad about what’s happened things were so great with us etc” we’re countless. But I NEVER sent them. If you need to, write it down how you feel, and then put it in a box. But I r ally wouldn’t recommend a letter or a text-the no contact heals you without YOU realising-and it will make her realise what life is really like without you
Ps I know you think a letter is intriguing…but you know what’s more intriguing. Silence! Because that makes her question what you are doing…silence = her wondering what you’re doing = why isn’t he talking to me or begging to have me back=what if he’s found someone else?! = what have I lost/I do miss him/maybe I should talk to him?
Only way I could describe the mentality the best way hehe
Woo well done thargus! Proud of ya. She can’t have her cake and eat it! She wants the attention from you, because quite frankly, she isn’t getting it from anyone else. Once you stop that, it’ll make her wonder why you’re not at her every call. I think she’s being extremely unfair to you if I’m honest, and it sounds as if she doesn’t want to be with you, but doesn’t want you to be with anyone else/wants you to still like her!
Ok… cool. Cause since I read the 30 day rule well I just thought I’d text her after a month to see how she was. But ok. All I can think about is her and another guy. If that happens… I’ll just move on. She said it was time she wanted for once to be alone so… I j wouldn’t want her after that. Hopefully lucks on my side. Thx!
Hope she misses me thoug. Cause she has shown 0 interest and after all we have been through. It’s crushing me.
So I posted this but idk what happened to it. I was at the gym and I apparently my ex was there and she said if I was ignoring here… I was texting my friends and she said she waved and tried to get my attention. She said: (in Spanish) yeah you ignoring me? And I was like oh hey, I didn’t see you… we asked about each other, she asked how I was doing and about school so I told her about me success in math class which is my kryptonite… and how I got 100 on a test and she asked about my jobs and all that and I told her I had to drop one in order to keep studying. Then I quickly asked about her life, family, job and then told her it was nice seeing her and that I had to get back to my workout so I don’t cooldown… It was hard not to look where she was cause she was right by me sometimes using machines kinda close to me or even far but I felt her stare only a few times. I never looked at her and tried not to, I was really focused on just working out hard. It was like 1 hour of having here there and I was like… whatever. But then as I leave I didn’t notice her dad was waiting outside on his motorcycle to pick her up… I hesitated cause I thought I left one of my personal belongings but then found it in my pocket… I think if the father saw me he might have told her I was waiting for her or something. Oh well then I walked home and since we live basically like in the same condominium and 50 steps away I heard them pass by me and then I saw them but I pretended like I was on the phone … idk why natural reaction lol. Guess nerves. But I played it cool and was just nice the way I am to everybody. Wonder how she too certain things cause she made a face like maybe I was trying to avoid her… which I wasnt. I talked for a bit. I just wanted to get my workout on… hopefully this was a positive thing. Sorry for all this long stuff.
Robertizle I wouldnt worry about her moving on , thats a natural worry!! Mine showed 0 interest at all in me - no calls, snapchats, likes on Facebook - zilch. it was as if he didnt even exist anymore - turns out the longer i ignored though the harder it was for him
I think you did well keep the NC going. she wont move on, trust
amy i have a question, what would your opinion be if she was to turn around and be very unhappy/annoyed with me for being distant etc?
im most worried of that happening see.
Thanks amy I will trust she won’t move on… her birthday is towards the end of this month though. Idk If I should do anything or at least say happy bday and take her out for a drink or coffee… she acted super friendly like she always has with me… Nice. She is genuinely a nice girl but idk. And I’ve seen her stalking on Snapchat… and she accidentally liked a vid of mine on Instagram and then quickly unlike it. So idk how I should feel haha. It’s pretty funny but a complicated situation nontheless. I have a feeling that after 30 days if she hasn’t contacted me… I should at least say whatsup or do what this website says but you said not to so I will take your word for it.
Thargus, She is the one who messed things up. What you did when you told her you had other plans was play with her insecurities and not give her what she wants so she won’t be angry or anything. And if she does get annoyed it is because she actually cares and you should let her keep wanting what she can’t have… Amy knows better than I do but that’s my opinion. Ask guru Amy lol
Hi @amy111 I’ve just read all of your posts and I feel I am in a similar situation to you. Would love to reach out to you. Don’t want to jump in on someone else’s thread with my story. Would you be happy to talk to me?