Only you know what is really right for you. If I did everything everyone told me to, I’d be going a million different directions at a million different speeds with my ex. My personal opinion is waiting it out a bit longer or sending one more text. And making sure that if that is her reasoning for not answering, that you make it clear it’s not okay and that it takes 30 seconds to respond to a text. I mean, do it nicely, but do it. And if that all doesn’t work, then maybe it is time to run an ultimatum by her. You can’t keep doing this forever.
your right. your advice is very good. thanks 
i just sent her that text. felt i needed to break some ice, there seemed to be some there again.
I understand. I don’t think it has anything to do with you, to be really honest. I think her behavior is disrespectful and immature as well, but I don’t think not talking to you has to do with you. I can’t say for sure, obviously, but that’s my thought. I’d just try to relax and not worry too much. Hopefully she gets back to you soon.
she text back, she said shes in the dumps becuase she had her freinds mum’s funeral today. how could i have forgotten it was today and not in two days time. im glad i asked her if shes alright now…
ill try and cheer her up in some way
I think that’s sweet of you. I just wouldn’t push her too hard. I also stand by what I said, making sure she knows that this isn’t mature texting/calling behavior. Today clearly isn’t the day, but you need to set those boundaries so this doesn’t happen in the future.
i drew a little cartoon picture of rocket and groot from guardians of the galaxy swinging on his arm, with a “hang in there” lol this should cheer her up a little. ill take a photo and post it over a facebook message
That’s very cute. If I were a girl, I’d like that a whole lot. Just don’t forget to talk to her once this is all over.
so. it happened today. i think we’ve both acknowledged that she just wants to be friends and nothing more and i have to accept that. long story short, it was a bunch of texts and she didnt want to go out to places with me while i still have feelings and that she is giving me a sense of false hope. so i dont know what else to do. for the sake of us, and our friends i also said i am okay with that. and we will go out as friends. and stay best friends. as hard as it will be for me to get over this, it seems i will have to.
ive been insanely busy so im sorry for not replying to peoples posts etc though i have read them up to date.
I’m really sorry, Thargus. That sounds really sad and is not what I was expecting after all of this. If it makes you feel any better, I really messed up too.
well, at the end of the day everything i have been saying is from my point of view i guess. not from hers. she was effectively saying in other words, that i state i want to be friends and that i cant go out with hopes, or she cant come out with me. im going to try and move on pretty quickly and go on a few dates to get my confidence back up.
you never know. i guess i cant hope… but i do really want to… that she sees sense if she sees me trying to move on. dammit this is incredibly sad. and of course i still have feelings, its hard for them to just go away. and i don’t think they will as we remain to stay friends and will be something i have to put up with.
maybe i should have just gone no contact for a long time to start with rather than just a month. i tell you one thing, i feel like an idiot. i guess i have learnt a lot but i truly wanted to develop what i have learnt, with her. overcome these things with her. but oh well. i know im always going to be left wondering what if, i wonder if she will as well? i wonder what she actually thinks and feels. i think that some honesty of this comes down to her not wanting to end all of our friendships for the sake of a relationship between us. but there we go.
what has happened your end @between1standa?
I just posted two things on my feed, so I’d just go read those. I could REALLY use the insight.
In all honesty, this is a crappy situation for you. But at least you have some idea where you stand now, and you can begin to start to move on. I don’t want to give you false hope, but it does seem to me that she could come back at some point in the future. For now, the only thing to do is just take care of yourself, take what she said as truth, and try to move on. I don’t think she’s going to be thrilled to see you move on though.
ive just got to try. for myself. it sounds weird but i actually feel like im hurting too.
ill go check out your page now my friend
It doesn’t sound weird at all. I’m sure it hurts to finally have some of that closure, even though closure will be best for you in the end. You just need to take really good care of yourself for the next little bit, and focus on things that are good for YOU. She seems to have a history of seeking you out when you do that, so I think that if you do it for longer and without regard to how it affects her, this ultimately could end well. At least in the sense that you two could end up being able to have a solid friendship. I don’t know about anything else. Only time will tell.
Thank you for reading mine!!
oh wow this has had quite a few updates to your post gimmie 10 mins to catch up haha
might i add, it might be quite cool to actually find some of you guys on facebook to be able to have kept in touch somewhat if you know what i mean? everyone has been too helpful in a very personal way. it might be nice. id understand if not but still
Yeah, that would be very cool! I’d happily give you my contact info. Also, take your time. I’m just antsy to hear.
The only thing you can do right now is let her know you don’t want to be friends, but that if she changes her mind she can’t get in touch. Say it and then move on and don’t contact her again!
Chin up fella!
Thargus I’m so sorry to hear this-it sounds as if she was leading you on a bit and loved the attention.
If you still want to pursue, I would say go no contact. Not just one month, but longer-do an “Amy” and go 3 months- let her know what life is like without you!
Thargus I definitely think you should move on. Not because there is no hope. But because she thinks you are just there and she can have you whenever she wants. Focus on you Be happy to be able to give your 100% to YOU, so you can develop and spend time in your hobbies, in getting better as a person or better at a specific thing (like your boxing).
Also I have read many times you run into each other at the gym. Can you not go at the same time she does? She will definitely be wondering why you aren’t there. If you have to go at the same time, just say hi how are you, smile, and keep doing your thing. Keep headphones on, go to another machine or activity, say you need to make a call, just something to not keep on the same “always around for her” pattern. Don’t be rude, just treat her like someone you just know, not someone you have a friendship with.
Go out more, meet new people, and really start living your life as being on your own, and push her to the back of your mind. I know my situation didn’t end up well, but we DID get back. And this is what I did. Started dating, having my own life. He was always on my mind and my plan was still running. But I didn’t just sit waiting, I went out did stuff for me and was already living as if he was never coming back.
Don’t take any of this in the bad way, it’s not my intention at all Also you might already been doing most of this, and of course it’s all just my opinion. There are no absolute truths. Although I just come to your thread from time to time I would gladly exchange FBs
@amy111 I hope everything is great with you! 
I’m still really proud how you handled everything. Maybe do pull an “Amy” @Thargus we should start using this term for 3 month no contacts eheheh 