I have been doing the no contact with my ex for a month now. I asked him Sunday if he would like to get coffee with me and exhchange our things back. He agreed. The meet up went really well. We talked and goofed around like it was old times. Although, when I offered to pay for his coffee, he quickly told the cashier he was buying his own. Also, when I looked at the things he gave back to me, there was all of the cute little love you things I got him or made him in there. Most of that stuff that I got him, he never displayed anyways. When I told my one friend about this, she says that most guys don’t want to put up that kind of stuff in their rooms as it would make them look less manly. Maybe I’m reading too much into this. I mean he was really engaged in my conversation, he was generally interested to see how I was doing, and was even stuttering! He used to do this when he got nervous. Before I left, he walked me back to my car and said it was good to see me. I told him you also and to not be a stranger. He said yeah you know, we can make small talk here and there. I hugged him and I had to stop myself from giving him a long hug. He then stared at me and I told him if he ever wanted to hang out, he knows where to find me. He said yeah same here. Be nice to do that. I made sure to not state I wanted to be friends in fear that that would mean we would never get back together.
@Packersgirl - The no contact wasn’t really for a month as you messaged him on Facebook after 2 weeks according to your 6/21 post. You don’t state how long you were together or why he broke up with you which might have something to do with whether he wants to get back together or not. I’m glad the coffee meet up went well with no arguing or negative behaviors, but when a guy cherishes whatever a girl gave him, he usually puts those things in a storage box and keeps them. He might have been nervous, but that’s still not an indication he wants to reconcile. Sounds like he was just trying to be polite, but only time will tell. DO NOT initiate contact! If he wants to talk or see you, he will contact you! Good luck…
I messaged him a clean slate message,taking fault for the things that I did. I relied on him for everything. I have severe anxiety, so that added onto that. His mom and dad were fighting constantly up until we broke up.His mom told his dad that she thinks his dad is flirting with me. Which, is not the case at all. Anyways, a few weeks after I find this out he breaks up with me. We were together for 8 months. Those little love you things I got him when we were together, he never put up anyways. The only thing that he did put up was this little dinosaur with a heart that I got him for Valentine’s Day.
@Packersgirl - It doesn’t matter that it was an apology message, it was still breaking the no contact rule. And it doesn’t matter if he didn’t display the items you gave him, the fact he didn’t keep them probably signifies that they didn’t mean that much to him or that he doesn’t want to keep any reminders of you. You still didn’t explain the reasons he gave you for the breakup. If your severe anxiety was a part of it (however you manifested the anxiety), I suggest you seek out professional counseling so that in the future you could have a better happier relationship, whether possibly with your ex or someone else.