I went to a therapist after my breakup. It helped a little. Youll have to go to more than one appointment tho if you want real help from them.
do you find that you discuss the breakup a lot with your friends? it seems to be the only thing i want to talk about these days!
For me, not since the initial breakup. I find it easier if I don’t bring it up and I quickly change the topic if my friends do bring it up.
I find it easier to cope with if there was no mention of it at all. It hurts down inside, but I’m the sort of person who wouldn’t show their feelings on the outside. I don’t want to show my friends that I can cave and buckle… I cry privately in the safe confines of my sanctuary.
Two weeks of non stop talking about it. Now, I am dealing with it internally. Talking to others can sometimes be a bad thing. So I dont.
yeah I’ve found it makes my friends and family resent my ex and i don’t want that if we do get back together. glad I’ve found this forum to talk about it on 
Yeah. I made the mistake of telling ppl about the breakup. Some of my family and friends highly dislike my ex now.
day 2 of NC but i feel good I’m just nervous because i think the only reason i feel good is that i have false hope that NC will make him miss me and want to reconcile…although he did say he would want to in the future so we will see
Keep it up!!
thanks for the encouragement!! i have been told by friends to just remain NC until he contacts me but I’m not sure…
I agree with your friends to an extent. NC for 30 days. Then false friendship.
gonna be tough with our anniversary next week 
Stay strong. It will send a strong message if you dont reach out.
My ex will shit when I dont reach out on Christmas or new years.
maybe thats a good thing! has she been reaching out to you at all? and i think mine will be very surprised if i don’t reach out on our anniversary as i usually can’t contain myself…going to prove him wrong!!
No she hasnt. Read my other post in Reconciliation. “I feel like giving up”
i have decided to join you in your 90 day NC…so nervous and not sure if this is the right decision but i think it is best for now to wait that long
What happened??
after we saw each other last week he basically told me he didn’t want to be in a relationship but wanted to recreate ours “one day” and said things like “eventually but i need more time”. he wanted to talk occasionally and meet up for dinner/lunch a couple times a month but i felt i could not handle this and did not want to be treated like a doormat. so i basically told him to contact me when he’s ready and ill reach out if i want to talk sooner but i think he needs to see that i can move on and be ok without him and won’t wait around for him forever…its one thing if he needs a few months off, but what if this turns into years? do you think this is the best way to handle the situation? I’m really not sure anymore
@atea1234: you actually did a good job in my oppinion… giving him space and time (more of it) wouldnt be so bad, but then with meeting him occasionally that wouldnt be that bad either. few months waiting is maybe worth it, if you can get another shoot with him… dont you think? the thing with the doormat - if you put lines betwen meeting him every now and then, and you dont always say yes when he wants to meet, you’re not in such a doormat situation if you know what i mean… sometimes you would have to say no i cant hang out today i have things to do…blah blah… you wouldnt be treated like a doormat. and when you feel the urge to go out with him a bit, you still can write him if you can meet at… but idk. thats just how i would deal with the situation if it was in my case
i am going to try to stick with 2-3 months of NC to show him i am serious about not waiting around but then i think i will reach out and ask him if he wants to get together and be friendly. for right now i can’t emotionally handle seeing him if he isn’t ready…he told me he can’t say for sure but his “gut” tells him a few more months maybe. i do want to keep checking in but i feel like going NC for a little is probably a good decision - he also hasn’t really had a chance to miss me since we both have been in contact