Hi!
So, here is the story (I’ll try to be short).
I was in a dad relationship and I decided to move from Madrid to Barcelona. There, I met Tea, the woman I love.
We booth were in an other relationship when we met. Everything was so wonderful between us, so full of passion that we couldn’t even resit to flirt and finally make love. Everything was so incredible that she decided to quit her boyfriend a month later. On my side, I had doubts, because I felt bad for the other person. I was already living in another city and I had the feeling that I was abandoning her. So I decided to tell her about my new relationship. We agreed to have an open relationship. Everybody was ok with that.
But as time past by, Tea and I were more and more in love. One year later I quited my girlfriend. The thing is that I was kind of hurt, because we were together for 7 years. Hurt because I had the feeling that I was abandoning her with here health and money problems, and that I was betraying her (I realize that now). These feelings had negative effects with Tea. She felt I wasn’t able to commit and so on. She felt bad. She was kind of right, but that been said, I was and I still am mad for her. I love her.
After several months I decided I had to do something about it, I had to come clean with my ex and try to heal from my guilt once and for all. I was broke, moneywise and I decided to move back at my parents (same city as my ex) for a couple of months in order to save some money and in order come clean with my ex and definitively build something with Tea. Now, I also wanted children and I also wanted to marry Tea.
The communication was bad with Tea at that point, because she had been traveling for almost a month and I we did not had a chance to really talk about that when I left. Once in Madrid, we had a fight and we broke up. She was hurt and broke. She could not understand why I left, she actually thought that I was not going to come back, which is completely untrue. That was a month and a half from now.
Everything was so confusing back than. She called me with anxiety attacks, I was kind of cold and confused. But three weeks later I came back to Barcelona and told her I had done everything I needed to and that I wanted to build a life with her. At that point it was to late for her. So I did the usual mistakes of crying and trying to convince (but no so much). She just said no. “Lets flow and see, but no. No for ever she said.” Only 3 weeks after.
The two next weeks, we were chatting for hours, and she contacted me many times. She even sent me a «good morning :)» at 7am, and things like that. She wouldn’t stop sending photos of her day and so on.
Now, 2 weeks later, I am in Madrid and planning to move to Barcelona, for ever, in two weeks. I want her back but I have so many doubts on how to do it. I know she loves me. I know I have been the most important man of her life. I have never seen someone looking at me like this.
After looking at your website, I decided to start the no contact rule, two days ago. I called her and told her she was right, and I was also going to move on. The day after she sent me a message, a cute message about anew emoji that remind her of me. What is this? Is it a way to see if we can be friends as she says she wants?
For her, the breakup was 45 days ago, for me it was 14 days ago. Where does that leaves me? What should I do? Do I still have a chance?