Hello Ryan, First off , I like to thank you for the great work here.
I have an online / long distance story that I like to share and see what your take is . As online / long distance dating is emerging more and more, I hope this could be of help to other readers as well .
Through an online dating service , I met a guy and one conversation lead to other and a relationship formed . I initiated the first conversation and he followed up . We both are professionals, I live in Boston and he lives in London . Knowing LDR are not easy , I looked at our relationship more of an experience to be explored with an open heart and mind . Since we were both busy we would text a few times during the week and tried to have a phone conversation on the weekend. He is most of a writer meaning expressing feeling through writings and I am a conversationalist and preferring phone calls .
It seemed that we both were logic about our relationship ; I was teasing him a bit about being monogamous with me ( because I could not believe ) and telling him time to time that we might just ended up meeting once .
I have a strong personality and he considers himself a bit shy but he knew how to handle me and have a good conversation with me on the phone ; I continued conversing with him because he came across a gentleman and his actions and words seemed to match.
From the beginning , he insisted me to meet him in London , promising to meet me in Boston after . I took the deal and 6 months after I met him in London for a week .
We had a great time together ; light and easy filled with activities . The chemistry was there and we spent good time together. For me the one week was an introduction to evaluate the situation and so I did not talk about what next as I thought we would mutually decide later . Since we were good together and I could see potential and team work , I was going to invite him to Boston right after my trip .
As i am writing this , I think this sounds so Cliche but here it goes : less than 24 hours after I left London , he sent me a beautiful text to tell me goodbye ! I did not know I have to laugh or to be upset . Since we both believed in doing the right thing , I texted an equally nice text and i told him that these things were not done through text and we need to talk .
So we talked and he he said that he was sorry and he did a huge mistake . When I asked why , he said that he thought I wanted commitment from him which surprised me a lot . He knew I would not easily commit and did not show any signs of wanting to start a serious relationship at that point.
He then told me let’s get space and he needed to think more .
For me the email was really unnecessary and damaged the relationship . Without knowing NC rule, I stopped texting him .
Here is my question: he has not contacted me either ( almost 3 weeks ) ; should I just leave it as is
or should I give him a call as I think he is sorry about his text and has left it up to me to either continue or not.
His BD is coming soon. Should i leave it to text HB .
Your input is appreciated .
