My ex and I were very close. We dated once four years ago and every since then she’s been my girl that got away and I never thought she’d come back. I was extremely happy when she did and most of the time I spent with her felt like I was dreaming. It’s been established between the two of us that we’re meant for each other and that we are going to get married someday. However we have our whole lives to do this and right now we’re young. I’m 18 and she’s 19. We’re both going through really stressful times in our individual lives and it’s best for us to be apart for now. We had this conversation and I think it went well but I still miss her a lot so I try to get a hold of her. She used to say she’s too busy to even look at her phone all day but now she just completely ignores me. So yesterday I made the decision to start no contact. Since she doesn’t speak to me, I have no idea if she still wants the same things for our future as she did before. But I assumed that our terms are still in the same page as before so I told her that I’m going to miss her and that I’ll look forward to meeting her again someday. Since then I haven’t spoken to her and I’m wondering if it’s already too late for me to portray myself as confident and happy because I’ve already said a lot of things that make me seem very needy. I was having a really hard time without her and I still am. During our time apart, I hope to find my purpose in life and get my own things sorted out so I can actually feel like I have my own life without her in it. I believe I can do this but I don’t believe that I can spend the rest of my life without her. I want to get her back someday and I want to know how I can do that without screwing anything up. Any advice?
@alexb18 - I’m confused as to when you had the conversation about “meant to be” and getting married someday? Were you in a relationship with her recently and for how long? Finding your purpose in life and getting your own things sorted out is a good idea, but for now she doesn’t seem to want contact with you. Do you live close to each other? Do you sometimes see her? If so, DO NOT pressure her about the future! Just enjoy time together, period. If you haven’t seen her in a while, you could ask her out for coffee or a meal or even to a movie to have some fun together.