i’m so stupid. i looked at pictures again. i was holding up quite okay, but now - all emotions rushing back.
i do lose hope… i know i have to give it time. have some space. cause of the stuff we have to sort, we saw each other once a week, there is hardly time for him to miss me then. but i started thinking now that he may have started ending this much earlier in his head. so maybe he won’t miss me at all and it’s all too late. it hurts so much.
(everything about my situation is in my thread in reconciliation)
how do you guys handle situations like this when all just seems to be in vain?
There’s no magic pill - some days the sadness is worse than others, it ebbs and flows but gradually decreases over time. Go No Contact - not only will it increase the likelihood of you getting him back, but also helps you get over him.
I think the most important thing to do is have a realistic mentality. Go through the steps here, try your best, but don’t hold out hope and pine for him forever. If this doesn’t work for you - and you have to acknowledge that it might not - move on and start dating other people.
Thank you for answering. I know there are good and bad days. Just wanted to know, what you do, when these bad times come rushing in - just give in and cry? Or try keeping strong?
Yes, I know, NC would be best. He still needs to get his stuff out of the apartment (today he will come by). There is still stuff in his dads storage of me. Since we lived together for nearly 2 years, it’s just not that easy starting the no contact, for there is still some stuff to discuss. we keep it to a minimum though.