We were together 2 years. We went through many different trials during those 2 years. Had a period of no contact (no by choice) for a month early on in the relationship and came out stronger than before. Had a minor hiccup later on and spent 2 months going back and forth between no contact and contact. Reconciled and made it through. Up until about 6 months ago, we had random arguments but it progressively got worse. I take the blame. I became complacent and hated myself. I was miserable and so was he. We had one big argument and here I am 2 months later looking for advice from a message board. We talked a lot in the beginning, through text and calls. We both have slowly declined in the interaction part. I see him once a month to pay the phone bill. Up until Tuesday I had it tried the no contact rule. I sent one last spill of a text and decided I would write to him in a notebook and give that to him once I see him again. If I even give it to him. It’s more of an outlet for my emotions. I love him. If I thought this would be the same scenario I would walk away with what dignity I have left. However, I think we can come out of this stronger than before. Do you think I have a shot at getting him back? Any suggestions on what I should do?
@raenoelle - Don’t give him the notebook! It will only rehash bad memories. Please know and understand that men want happy easy relationships and that arguments kill loving feelings over time. I don’t know if you need therapy to work through your issues of low self esteem or if you can work on it yourself through talking to people +/or reading books. But you definitely need to change your self into a happier easy going person before you could possibly get another chance at a better relationship! Since you see him once a month, just let him know you’re working on your issues with self improvement. (What’s up with sharing a phone bill? Are you on a family type phone plan or ?) Anyway, after a few months ask to meet up for a fun date and if he notices you as a happier more mellow person, he might want to try and work through whatever problems you had together. Always keep those kind of conversations short and to the point without any ridicule of him. Stay positive and you might get another chance. So don’t contact him other than doing the phone bill thing and work on improving your outlook and life and love. Good luck:)
@raenoelle - *correction ~ Improve your outlook on life and love…