Hi kevin
I was in a relationship with my girlfriend for over 4 and half years.Everything was going fine with her,but now a sudden she stopped talking with me and said she wanted to stay alone and wanted space.i was not getting what happend so i went to meet her,where she met me and also cried with me,but she said that she was talking to a guy from 10-12 Days.i was shocked and cried and told to stop talking to that guy,but she told that she felt nice while talking to him and will continue talking to him,i begged her to not do this to me and she told that she will not talk but,but after two days i asked and she said she will talk if she requires to talk.Again i went to her and pleased her not to do this,but she started shouting and said i will do what i want,its her life and i cannot control it,and wanted me to leave ,i left crying and after reading your article which made me feel calm i started no contact with her and it has been 2 Days doing so,but i want to know whether she will love me or not …she used to love me a lot…or will she come back to me…plzz reply
If you give her space and if there were more good things about the relationship than bad, the time might allow the bad memories to fade and the good memories to come to the forefront. Improve yourself in the areas you think would help you be a better boyfriend, either with her maybe later or with someone else. If controlling was an issue, think it through and make adjustments in your thinking and behavior. Try the NC (no contact) for at least 30 days and after that reach out with a friendly happy note and see how she responds.
Hii
i was trying the no contact but suddenly by mistake i told her friend that she was talking to some other guy and also told that what messages they are sending to one another.suddenly she pinged me and told that what i did was very wrong and she hates me more for this,she was angry on me and told me that if i repeat this she will block me from everywhere .so what do you think i did a really big mistake,is she never going to come to me…shall i still follow no contact and wait for her.
OMG! I can’t believe you did that. Never talk about her behind her back to her friends because it will get back to her. Of course she’s angry. What you did was very wrong and hurtful. You need more self control for sure. And don’t stalk social media. You might take this time of no contact to think about how you treated her during the relationship and make improvements that would possible make for a better and happier relationship in the future. I don’t know if she will continue to love you or see you, but absolutely don’t contact her! She has asked for space. Respect her request! Distract yourself by doing more constructive things in your life.
Hey thanks for your help so immediately…but she told me that she will block me from everywhere like facebook and whatsapp…so why she told me…is there any chance that she wanted me to see through social media…and yet why she is afraid of talking about their new relationship openly…yesterday only she unblocked me from facebook…yet i have thought i will not contact her…why she unblocked me and made me she her,does she still want me or will she come if i will follow the no contact rule
Please don’t look at social media stuff. It serves no good purpose! It will only leave you wondering and guess about things and making the wrong assumptions. Who knows why she unblocked you from Facebook. It doesn’t mean much, so just forget it. She doesn’t have to talk about her new relationship and maybe she doesn’t want to. There is no way to know what she will do after no contact. No contact is more for you to get yourself in a better frame of mind and make self improvements. Sometimes it allows space for a person to miss someone and maybe want to reconcile, but no guarantees. The main thing is to improve yourself in ways that would make a better relationship possible. Use this time wisely…
Thanks so much…for your help i have thought that i will not look at social media stuff…that hurts me a lot also…but today something happened before she got angry on me over talking with het friend.what happened was that i told her on whatsapp that i watched a movie which made me remember her…she replied thanks to me with a smiley…after that might be her friend had told her about what i talked to her friend and she got furious …was there any chance she wanted to talk to me and come back,have i really messed up the things…she really loved me so much…will this act of mine move her away…
Why do you keep asking the same question over and over? My advice I’ve given above was don’t contact her. She asked for space and you should respect that. Yes, you messed things up and that’s why it’s important to leave her alone for awhile. She was being polite to say thank you. If she really wanted to talk to you, she would. She didn’t, so leave her alone and quit bugging her. Again, I don’t know what she’s going to do or if she will move on. Work on self improvements…