So the other night my ex decided to go out after she already told me that she wanted to stay home. I went to see her after I left the bar and she was not at home. Like any normal male I sent bad text messages and left bad voicemails on her phone calling her names and accusing her of cheating on me. She finally called me back at 8 pm the next day. I called her some more names and broke up with her. I finally got my patience back the next day after I talked to her friend and she told me that she did not think that there was anyone else. I started feeling bad about the names I called her and sent her a lot of whiny texts pleading my undying love for a couple of days in which she would not talk to me. She told me that she would talk to me when she felt the time was right. I left her alone for a day. She finally texted me back today and asked me how my recent surgery was doing. I responded back with usual talk that you would respond back with. She left me a one word text that said ‘good’. My question is should I continue with the no contact until she messages me again or should I message her back asking if we can talk now? Is the no contact working?
How long were you in the relationship and when did she break up with you?
No contact is more for you to make self improvements in areas that negatively affect relationships. Like things that make it more pleasant and happy. Most people want a loving relationship that is caring and respectful. Normal males don’t react the way you did by accusing someone of cheating and calling names. She is your ex and she has the right to do whatever she wants. If you continue to behave in anger and then tell her you love her, the pattern will cause her too much hurt and she will probably decide not to see or talk to you again. Now is the time to get a hold of yourself and change your behaviors. I hope you apologized, but if you didn’t, maybe just send one short text and do so. If she answers in a nice way, maybe ask to talk. But you must be calm about it and don’t argue!
Try no contact to improve your temperament. I don’t know the exact reason she broke up with you, but your anger might be one of the main reasons.