She’s being very childish! And talking about her dates and how she wants to have sex is just plain rude! What kind of person would throw all that in your face??
No contact is best in your situation, but she might continue with her anger and maybe bragging about other guys again. She even disrespected your request for no contact…
During this 30 days, think seriously if she is the kind of person who could make you happy in the long run.
Good luck.
Little update since the new years. Long story short she claimed she wanted to work on things and “mend our bond”. Fast forward to march, she comes visits me in CT for the weekend of march 2nd and 3rd. We have an absolutely amazing weekend, she was texting me the whole week following that and saying how much she needed that and how in love she’s starting to feel with me again. During that week of texting she’s already making plans for me to come to long island on her bday weekend (march 24th) so I can get a hotel with her in Long Island after having her dinner party. She even told me about the CT police exams she would be taking in April.
Then a week before her birthday she texts me saying she has to work on the 24th so there would be no point of me coming on the 23rd and getting a hotel with her in LI. Instead she says she would come visit me in CT the week after and we would celebrate her bday late. Automatically I sense something fishy. We get into an argument about how she’s not making much effort to see me lately, and when i make efforts she always makes an excuse. I finally ask her for the keys to my condo. She tells me if she gives them to me we are done for good. I asked for them anyway and we ended up blocking each other. This was on march 16th.
Next week, the 23rd comes around which is the night of her bday dinner party, I come to find out she is staying the night at the hotel with some other guy. She actually posts it on her instagram story, and my friends who follow her sent me a screenshot of them laying in bed together. Obviously that hurt me immediately because in my mind im thinking “she has been playing me this whole time, and she made an excuse not to spend the night with her at the hotel and got a hotel with this guy instead”. Turns out this guy was from CT too and she met him a week after our weekend together.
Fast forward one week after her bday and the guy drops her like a bad habit after finding out the truth. Someone I know personally knew him as well and told him everything. Small world. She calls me infuriated “I hope you’re happy, you got what you wanted, this guy wants nothing to do with me because you can’t keep your moth shut. You made me out to be the bad guy” etc. I block her on everything and decide its time to move on. She tries calling me using a restricted number for two weeks, knowing its her i refused to pick up. But after 2 weeks i caved in and finally picked up. I heard her out and she apologized for everything. She said that wasn’t her, she claimed she still felt resentful about our past and as a result she acted out of anger. She felt like she didn’t owe me anything because of how I treated her during our relationship.
This was about mid April when she apologized. But I already started going on dates with others, and she felt upset as a result because she tried reconciling after what had just happened 2 weeks earlier. That awakened my feelings for her again, and I started speaking with her again. From this point forward I was obviously real weary given what she had done just few weeks prior. This resulted in more arguments and I didn’t talk to he for another 2 weeks. I finally talk to her again after she’s calling me numerous times. Now shes claiming she wants to move to Florida with her friend because she’s not happy in Long island. Turns out she met some other guy in that 2 week period because he has family in Long island, but lives in Jacksonville. He was up there to see his family but went back home since then. Now she’s planning to take a vacation on memorial day weekend to go see him and “find apartments” so she can move down. Of course she didn’t tell me all this, she claimed she was going to Florida with her friend Michelle, but once again I found out the truth regardless.
When i found out she lied once again, I sent her some nasty messages. I was beyond angered at this point. Probably shouldn’t have done that… but whats done is done. She blew my phone up on Sunday after i sent her those messages. Eventually she picked up and she expressed how sorry she was for everything, and that she messed up bad with her actions towards the end. Said she isn’t a vindictive person and that I bring that negative side out of her. As a result she claims we aren’t good for each other. She wished me nothing but good fortunes and she wants us to keep each other blocked and wants both of us to move on and wishes to never speak again going forward.
I was extremely indifferent about all of this during our last conversation, but I feel like i shouldn’t be. I don’t want to be indifferent. It just sucks knowing that the person I proposed to last year is basically becoming just another stranger. As if those 3 years were for nothing. I would like to at least re kindle a friendship out of all of this moving forward after some good amount of time with NC has passed. I still love her and care for her even after everything that has happened. Should I move on and dead her completely, or should I allow a serious amount of time to pass before trying to contact each other again… and if she calls before a months time has passed. Should I ignore her? or should I hear her out?
Honestly, cut her off completely and ignore her. It sounds like she will never change and will keep burning through guys like no tomorrow.
You will be better off without her.
I agree with gamecoder! This toxic mess has been going on for about 8 months and you don’t deserve the aggravation and you don’t need her as a friend! Block her on everything and move on. When you’re stronger emotionally, start dating women close by in your own area.
Yes, I agree and so did she during our last conversation. She’s the one who brought up that we should keep each other blocked and she wishes to never want to speak to me moving forward and that we should both just move on. But somehow I don’t really believe that coming from her lol. If she tries contacting me after 30-60 days or something, should I still completely ignore her? I’m sure by that time both of us will be in a much better place and won’t really care much about the past.
It’s up to you weather you want to reconnect, but honestly you don’t need a person like her in your life. I have no doubt she will continue to throw negative comments in your face to try to make you jealous or try to make you feel bad about yourself! Surely you can find someone else who is more mature and would treat you better.
It’s a sad situation, but if it were me, I would move on and not ever contact her again…