Well i stoped speaking to her if she wants to speak she has to do it! And i wont come off needy since i’ll tell her that i was cleaning my room and found her stuff and that “im planning on running later and that i could pass by and give it to her it’ll take 5 mins!”
Ok yeah thats sounds good. I just didn’t want you to fall into her trap where she thinks you’re pathetic and stuff. But if you think you can go and see her for 5 minutes and run off and you will still feel ok then you’re doing great :). I’m jealous lol.
Thing is i’ll probably be super stressed, butterflies and shit but i want to see how she will look at me if she gives me that stare that “i want you” i’ll end the convo shortly after just to let her envy haha
But you shouldnt be jealous of me since i never got my ex back and probably never will… you on the other hand you can win him back! You’ve done it before and can do it again but before doing it you must solve your personal problems and become much stronger by yourself because by telling me “he was my light” it shows me you are very depandant to his presence therefore needy 
and thats not good you need to be your own light, the one you must depend on is yourself no one else!
Yeah but you’re much stronger now because of it ! I feel however I am a very weak person. People are always telling me I’m strong and given the things I’ve overcome in my life I am strong, but I’m tired of being strong. And lol you’re so positive, thank you :), I don’t know if I’m able to maintain that positivity though. I was very dependent on him, however this last year I’ve had many financial issues, issues with my family and friends, and getting bullied at work and now I’m trying to find a new job and get a transfer to another store. Its all very difficult. So in amongst all that he was my light if you know what I mean.
Yes i understand but still you know you cant think of him as being the only good part in your life! You are your own light, the decision maker on your own life, the only one that could make you succeed and be happy is yourself! And i might appear strong but when it comes to my ex its a whole other story like im anxious, stressed, sad, upset like i get super emotional and start overthinking since i want her back soooooo mucchhhhhh
Sorry I fell asleep here lol. I am actually working towards making a happier life for myself and should I ever have another partner (whether its my ex or someone new) hopefully I’ll be in a better place where i’m not so angry all the time.
And Samuel, I do think you’re going well. This is your first time broken up with her and from my experience of breaking up two times with the same partner, the first time is the most emotional and now the second time i just feel empty inside :/. I have no idea what to really do with myself, especially cause I haven’t heard from him :/.
I do believe you’ll get another shot!
And thanks but still i’m probably not getting her back 
and she was the first girl i dated all other girls were never serious like one nights and seeing women, my ex was the first one i dated and loved! And i was her longest relationship, best boyfriend and best in bed! We had 2 years age difference, we were together 24/7 and i really really love her and want her back but sadly dont see it happening
Hmm it seems we have some things in common you and I. This was also my first relationship and I spent every minute with him and now you just don’t know what to do with yourself hey. Have you been getting out and about on any dates or anything ? I know I personally haven’t thought about dating and getting out there because its only been a week for me and I have no idea where to go and meet other men. I have realised I am a serious relationship person and don’t just want to sleep around. Have you sent the letter or anything as of yet either ?
Yes i did and she did not reply to the letter and i gave her a letter speaking my heart out and she got mad! I am seeing women and getting one nights but i dont like that im like you i want a serious relationship!
Yeah its hurtful when they don’t respond to such a heartfelt letter. I also left my ex a letter thanking him for the great times and the impact he had on my life along with his birthday present which I had gotten him early and all he said was “thanks for the letter and the present” like it didn’t even mean much. The letter probably sounded corny but it was the truth lol.
But her getting mad is unusual. They say that indifference in the ex is when the relationship is over, however hate or anger is a sign that you have stirred something up within them.
Ya she thinks im trying to end her new relationship…
@samuel I feel like you want everyone to tell you she’s coming back? That we know for certain your chances due to situation similarities or past experiences, the truth is, we cannot!
No two people are the same, people process things differently, have different thought patterns and move on faster than others!
The only answer we can give you is that she may come back, she may not, it is as simple as that! And it is the same for each one of us… We can advise each other on how to deal with our situations or emotions but in reality no one knows what will happen…
She needs time, and you need to give it to her. I advise you carry on with no contact if you feel you are not getting anywhere… Especially if she has a new boyfriend. Any effort to split them up on your part will drive her further into his arms! You need to let her make her own mistakes, if this is one. As someone mentioned further up the comments, not all relationships are rebounds and you need to be prepared for that! Improving yourself and starting to move on is the only way to do that!
Sorry for the bluntness!
The one thing that makes me mad is that i cant get a for sure answer to if its over or not and its what i want to know! Shes showing me sings of her still loving but also sings of her not wanting me no more 
I did try everything! And i did try to find a new girl and move on but the new girl is unfindable and when i move on she contacts me and its pissing me off! Im sick a d tired of this if i had money i would move out for a few months and go to a new country
You won’t get an answer and in reality she doesn’t owe you one! She has ended the relationship, take that as it is over! Stop trying to get answers to your questions, this is one of the biggest points of getting in touch with your ex after no contact, anything you wanna know, DONT ASK, now is not the time and in reality when the time is right you won’t even care what the answers are because you’ll have her trust back and you’ll be working through things successfully!
In terms of moving on… It’s not about finding someone else it’s about being happy with yourself and getting to the point where you know you will be okay without her! That is why your struggling with new relationships, because your still hanging onto every word she says!
I know it’s frustrating when you love someone and your desperate for answers and to hold them and kiss them and them to make everything okay! Im there myself with someone I thought was madly in love with me for the last 6 years!! But you need to have some self control and give your ex the time she needs, if she needs it! It may be over, you have to accept that! There is nothing wrong with a little bit of hope but do not let it consume you and your actions! You’ll regret it!
I am doing my best to let go but when i do something happens to keep her in my mind either she texts me, either i find clothes that belong to her, either a friend of mine speaks of her or even i hear songs that talk about how i felt with her and weird part is they randomly play when i listen to the radio alone but usualy i listen to my music so there is no flashback!
I understand that in my situation you would give up but i never do! And even if it takes 2 years itll take the time it needs! Im planning on doing another 2 month NC to work on myself and then try to become friends with my ex again!
I’m also considering a rebound relationship! Because i’ll be honnest i see my ex as being the one just that when we broke up she wasnt thinking clearly and was going threw tough times with her family!
Don’t think about a ‘rebound’ relationship… that is so hurtful because it means you are intentionally going into a relationship with someone else with no intention of being true to them, and in the end you could end up hurting them the way your ex has hurt you and that is plain cruel. Fair enough, meet up other people and enter into other relationships IF YOU HAVE FEELINGS FOR THAT PERSON, not just to get over your ex.
If you choose never to give up you are only going to hold yourself back. You have to accept that you may not get what you want. Until you do that, noone can help you as you will not listen to advice…
We all have things that remind us, its natural, you are not different to any other person going through a break up! She will never come back if you wallow in the past… You need to pull yourself together and look towards the future.
All i’m trying to do is get an answer cuz im the kind of person that always needs to understand or else i question myself on the subject for days on end… and yes your right it would be cruel of me to get a rebound but your are wrong about me not listening to advice! Since no one is giving me any… all they say is let go or you have a shot they dont give me plans on how to proceed… like i really am getting better there is only one place where i let my emotions flo freely and its here and its a bitch that i cant do it anymore since apparently thats not considered as moving on… i made this post to be able to get help for me since 80% of my posts were to help others!
I go to the gym 5 times a week for 2 hours sessions! I play hockey in 2 different teams about to go for 3 soon! I’m getting straight 80% in college! Im sleeping more, eating better seeing my friends more meeting new women and people! I am doing better and moving forward…
At the end of the day i think of my ex because she is the only one i want to go back to bed with i never felt so good with anyone else before and its the reason why she is the only one i dated and presented to my family and friends!
So i come here to be able to win back the one i love and give it a 2nd chance!