Hopefully I’m not thinking as negatively as I was. I still haven’t given up hope, I just hope it isn’t false hope. I’m trying not to over think anything too much anymore.
I really do think that my ex thought that he meant we could talk at New Year’s. It seemed like he had thought about it even before I had told him I still had feelings for him. I know that he wouldn’t say something if he didn’t truly believe it so I just have to keep thinking that it’ll work out, and hopefully it will. I also feel like I’m in a better frame of mind for if it doesn’t work out.
I’m really glad for our virtual friendship as well! I had told a few people online about my situation and kept trying to get advice off different people which just confused me more and more. In the end, I think these people got fed up of me telling them every little thing I was feeling so I’m really lucky these boards are here. I feel like if I didn’t express everything on here then I would either explode or cave and tell my ex everything!
I’m sad that you feel like your ex doesn’t have you in your heart anymore but it’s good that you can deal with it now. That’s the main reason for NC I think, it helps you deal with the fact that your ex isn’t part of your life anymore (and in good examples it makes them miss you and wonder where you are). I’m sure it’s really hard to let it go and I know that you will be together if you are meant to be. Good luck with your NC! I’ll be here to help you through it all.
I definitely love myself more than I did when I was in a relationship. Something that someone told me was when I’m in a situation like, my friend or even my ex hasn’t messaged me back or I feel like everything is hopeless, I just have to ask myself ‘Do I love myself enough to get through this?’ And usually I surprise myself with the answer and it helps me feel more strong.
The hope is still in my heart for me and my ex, but one day it might not be. One day I might truly be over him. But for now, I think I just have to hold on for a little while longer. At least until New Year’s. My only REAL worry is thinking that he may have found someone else 
but no one has said anything, unless they’re trying to keep me from hurting but he said that he didn’t want to be in another relationship for a long time so I just have to trust him on that and hope for the best on that front.
I’m going to put all my photos onto a hard drive and just put them away for now. Maybe one day I will be able to look back at them and smile, instead of feeling sad that it’s over. I also have some polaroids of us together that are still up in my room, so I should really take them down.
He isn’t my first thought in the morning anymore. Sometimes I think about the fact that I have to go to work, or about something else and then I remember about the break up. When I remember in the morning I don’t feel too sad though. I just think ‘Oh yeah’ and eventually that will just be natural. That will be what my life is like. Hopefully!
The thing I wonder about is if in say, 2 years, if I’m STILL thinking about my ex, I’m not sure if I should contact him then? I’ve thought about writing a letter and then if I still want to send it, I will send it then. But by that time he may have changed address or his phone number so it’d be really difficult to get in touch. Hopefully, if I do something like that, it’ll just work out and I’ll let things progress naturally and not get to upset if he replies to me or not. I realize that’s very far in the future so I’ll just think about now and leave those thoughts to if/when they happen 
That is what I believe. I believe in fate and everything. So even if you haven’t seen your ex in a few years, maybe you will run into them and everything will play out like a rom-com! haha. We never know what will happen. I think we just have to keep love in our hearts, whether its for our ex, for someone else, or for ourselves.
The thing is… I’m not okay with that thought of he’s not there anymore. Maybe it’s just me assuming the worst so that I don’t get hurt anymore. I just had a dream of gimme telling me he misses me so much but he said silent because he is afraid I’ve moved on. Lol it feels so real! Sometimes I wondered if he ever thought like that :‘( Like maybe he really misses me too but he thought he’s doing this for our best. Because seriously we have been through TOO MUCH to just forget everything. I accidentally looked at the notes he wrote me years ago and it just bring tears to my eyes. He was so afraid of losing me back then… I was just leaving for a vacation but he started to say he’ll miss me so much and cried in front of me :’( Argh… where did that old him go? Where have all the times gone? How can he choose to forget everything that happened in 3.3 years? Because I can’t…
But sometimes I feel leaving all this at here is the best for us if we ever get to get back together. At least our memories remains, for both of us. The thing is, I don’t know if you read horoscope or not but for me, they are accurate in a lot of ways. Me and my ex are of the same horoscope, so I notice while we’re still together, there are lot of times we think the same way and basically we have a lot in common in every expect . I’m an extroverted introvet and so is him. He looked like he have a lot of friends but he doesn’t really have a one true friend. Except that he can deal better with loneliness than I do because he’s a guy. He told me before he thought that I won’t just agree to the break up. To show him he was wrong, I just walked away. During the first month he still send me snapchats and chat with me on random things. I did replied but I ignore him and thought I should stick to NC. Now I think back and thought if I have done the wrong thing … Did I make him think that I moved on?
Yes I do believe that you and your ex will get to work things out on New Year’s either way. Like you said at least you know for sure that you will be in a better frame of mind. Don’t worry too much if your ex is gonna ne dating someone else or not…because we can’t control anything either we’ll only end up in more pain . Just have confidence that he won’t forget you. He’ll miss you too like you miss him. He’ll compare his current relationship with yours and miss the way you loved him. Because I believe you both had an awesome 2 years together. Don’t stick to too nuch rules… Or else you’re only gonna regret the chances you didn’t take.
I was thinking if I should just confront him and talk about everything. Because I really miss him as my best friend. I don’t have anyone at all now. Except my family but it’s not the same. I just feel so alone in this world. Somehow I feel he’s feeling the same too but he thought I’ve moved on so don’t want to have false hope. He knew me the most and I do too . This distance, it hurts. At the same time I also thought that he maybe moved on himself and he only reply me out of respect ? I’m just so confused.
He did throw me signs that he miss me though… there was this song that I asked him to hear when we first met up after the break up. Then he posted a photo and the caption are lyrics from that song. The chorus of that song is ’ If you’re struggling like I am, can’t we get back together to make things easier? ’ Was he indirectly telling me this? 
But that was a month ago anyway … If you like to hear that song I’ll be glad tp share with you but it’s a Korean song which I don’t understand too but I looked at the english translation.
Anyway for your case I feel sticking on NC is the best bet. Who knows he may start to miss you and text you too. And yeah we should continue to love ourselves more for now. Because no one else will love us as much as we can ourselves. I haven’t save all our pictures up I guess I should already ! Good luck in your work and hope to hear your reply soon!
Aww, you should never assume anything. I think that, once your ready, it will be a good idea to talk to your ex and see how he is feeling. That is the only way you will ever know. I feel like my ex is doing the same. He feels like it is best for us to be away from each other right now, but that doesn’t mean he doesn’t care about me anymore or that he won’t love me again in the future. You never know what someone is truly thinking unless you ask. I haven’t looked at notes or messages or anything because I know that they’ll make me cry so much and I’ll probably break NC!
My ex and I have the same horoscope as well!! This is getting scary how similar our situations are haha. I don’t read them, but I have thought about it. I’m feeling like it might be best to leave my feelings and memories here as well. Then if I ever see my ex in the future things could work out naturally. I just don’t know though. I guess he did say that he would talk to me at New Year’s. so I’ve gotta do that at least.
I think you did the right thing not replying to him at the beginning because it showed him that you WERE moving on and you were growing up to become a different person. Developing into someone that he wouldn’t want to break up with. I hope that makes sense? I’m sure he would have wondered where you had gone. But that’s a good thing!
That’s very true. Even if my ex is with someone else that doesn’t mean that he will automatically forget the time we spent together. I’m really sad because he doesn’t own any photos of us together 
He doesn’t have a camera and he used to update his phone all the time which would wipe the memory. I didn’t really mind at the time but it seems sad now that there will nothing to remind him of how we looked together. I have lots of photos and polaroids of us together.
I wanted to write my ex a letter. I don’t know if I’ll send it but at least I’ll get all my feelings out. Then I can give it to him if I see him in October or New Year’s and reaffirm things that I’m going to talk to him about.
I can’t say for sure if your ex is just replying out of respect or not. But I think it’s a good idea to ask him how he feels. I would use the text / phone call templates that are in Ryan’s Relationship Rewind? That way you can reestablish a connection, meet up with him as friends and then on the third date you get him alone and tell him how you feel. I don’t know how well this works because I haven’t done it myself (as I told my ex of my feelings the first time I saw him again) and maybe that won’t work for you but I just thought it’d be worth mentioning? For ideas on what to say etc.
Aw that’s sounds like a really cute song. He might have been reaching out to you. I guess you won’t know unless you ask him. I wish I could see what my ex is putting on facebook He deleted it for a day (my friend told me) and then when he was back this girl that I really don’t like asked him why and he said that he was in a dark place. But my friend said it sounded like he was joking which really upset me because i AM in a dark place!! Ugh.
I’m really hoping that he’s missing me. I have no idea what he’s been up to lately and it kills me. He has probably been out partying every weekend. Normally I’m at home on the weekends because I have work D: I don’t really have anyone else to hang out with. Especially as my sister is living to college soon, which is going to be really tough.
Good luck if you ask your ex how he feels. I believe in you!
Yeah I agree on that! But for now I just feel that I still have some growing to go. I want to learn to be more independent and do things that show to myself that I am worth it. I have an exam going on so for now I just want to focus on my studies Although sometimes I still have that thought that ‘How nice would it be if he’s here and going through everything with me?’ I guess sometimes we just have to see it as… an opportunity to grow up. Because we aree born into this world alone anyway. And if it’s true love , the bonds don’t break easily… maybe they’ll connect again further down the line.
Ohh wow! It’s really abit creepy that our situations are similar in so many ways here! Mind if I ask what sign are you? I’m a gemini haha! Anyway I read something somewhere today and I feel it’s very applicable to our situations. They said that reconciliation will likely be possible for our case. Because the relationship was going well all along , both party were really getting along well until some life changes come along in one or both of our lives. Because of work (for your case) and studies (for my case) we grew dependent and clingy towards the end. It was due to certain life circumstances. The problem is - attraction.
I guess by keep wanting to spend time with them and subconsciously depended on them for our happiness, our relationship dynamics with them is altered. It take two people working together to build a healthy relationship. But when we started to reach out more, we’re in a way chasing them and turn out, they stopped trying instead. And something that has been on the universe since the early times are truer than ever. My grandma always told me - guys need to make the chase, girls need to play hard to get, but it take time to learn the right way. I don’t get it when I was young, now I finally realise. It doesn’t mean we have to act like a spoiled brat or have princess attitude. But our boyfriends need to appreciate our value, like how they used to see us when they’re chasing us. I hope that all these did help you abit on having a clearer view!
Aww that’s sad that he don’t have any pics of you both together… But I bet you’re still on his mind babe! Some memories don’t just fade away. The beautiful ones will always remain no matter how much he want to distract himself from everything now. I was the one having more of our pics too. I remembered editing and printing out photos of us and he’ll always put them in his wallet, which was also his bday gift from me . I wonder if he removed all of it But one thing I’m sure is he’s still keeping them somewhere… in his drawer maybe. My ex just changed a new phone not along ago and I was there accompanying him when he got it, that night he transferred all our photos in his phone… maybe he deleted it now but… I hope he still keep it somewhere like I’ve planned to put it in a pendrive!
I honestly feel like your ex is struggling too… from the way he deleted his fb? He seems like he’s just trying to avoid. It’s just that guys hate to be vulnerable , it’s just their instinct. That’s why even thought their suffering they still keep things to themselves instead of rumbling or seeking advice from someone else.
I chatted with my ex abit last night. I wished him take care as he’s heading to another city to send off his brother to UK. I sent him a link to a funny video which was off a boy band we both liked very much. He was online but he didn’t reply me. It was late at night - 4 am. So I thought I guess I was talking too much and he felt annoyed. But I didn’t bother much because I was just genuinely thought that he would find it funny too. The next (early) morning he replied with ’ ohh okay!’ And I felt relieved as … at least he make an effort to reply me. After half a day, I sent him a smiley, which he immediately send back a wink. LOL. Now I’m a bit confused. But I guess it just mean that he felt okay talking to me, and he wasn’t trying to avoid me in any way. I’ll just go NC for now and see how it goes! Not planning to talk about US yet though…
Hope you’re doing better today @scatteredtracks! :* And yeah same here! I don’t have anyone to hangout with either When is your sis leaving? Don’t worry I’ll still be always here to be there for you!
Yeah that’s right. I think you should talk to him when you feel ready. I’ve though about doing just that as well. Like… Maybe I won’t talk to him for a few years just so I can grow and figure out what I’m doing. If it’s true love I don’t think he’ll forget about me but then again maybe he will. I guess I should talk to him at New Year’s though… I’m just scared I’m going to cry the entire time.
I’m an aries… although I definitely don’t feel like one. Idk I just don’t fit a lot of the aspects of that sign but nevermind. I hope that what you read was right. Although I can’t say that my relationship was 100% fine. I was always pretty clingy, it just got a lot worse. And we had a lot of ups and downs but in the end the good times were a hell of a lot better than the bad times and I just hope he is remembering them while I’m not contacting him.
Yeah that makes sense. I’ve read that sort of thing before. And it’s really cute at the beginning of a relationship when they’re trying to impress you. My ex thought he was going to be a really bad boyfriend! But he was amazing and sometimes I wasn’t very grateful for that.
I guess my memories haven’t faded and I haven’t been looking at any pictures either (because that would make me too sad). My ex had a couple of little love notes / letters that I gave him. I tried to get them to me when I went to get all my stuff from his house. I said they’re yours… just throw them out or whatever. But he said no no and just put them down on the bed.
Yeah I kinda thought he was struggling adn the fact that he said that made me feel worried about him. But then my friend said that it seemed like he was joking so I was pretty annoyed about that because I am in a dark place and he probably knows that. He’s definitely not one to show his emotions (even when we were together) so it is strange that he even said something like that… he could’ve just said that it was an accident or something to protect his feelings if that was how he actually felt but idk for sure. Maybe he wasn’t joking and was actually feeling sad…I’ll never know. My sister has seen him in the supermarket and things a few times and said that he looks pretty happy, but he has always been high I haven’t seen him around town because I avoid going anywhere when I know he might be there. I shop for food during the day instead of going there at night when he could be there after work. I’d like to run into him but I’m not sure how I’d react. I’d probably be really sad Also, you’re not supposed to go anywhere they may be during NC.
Aw at least he replied to you in the morning. I’m sure he was just tired the night before. But good luck with your NC for now! Hopefully he’ll end up messaging you :')
My sister is leaving in a few months in December or during the New Year. That kinda sucks because that’s when I’ll be talking to my ex and I want her around for that time! Thank you!! I’ll always be here for you too. Even if it’s only virtual, it’s better than nothing <3
Yeah most of the times of our relationship we were really happy together too, the bad times are only less than a quarter of it… I really hoped that he will remembered how much he used to love me though :') But I’d always showed him that I appreciated everything he’d done for me, maybe I even expressed too much towards the end. Because that’s one of my darkest period of our life, I was stressed out and depressed. But because I cling on to him too much… he just want to get away instead
I don’t know but sometimes I still feel that it’s not completely hopeless… we were each other’s soul mates. We knew each other so well. I agree that I was not acting like myself instead I feel like an over-possessive gf a few months back. But argh… I was struggling and he was my closest person on Earth … how can I not depend on him ? So I guess from now on I still need to work on myself, as I still can’t stand being alone. The silence is killing me. It was not always like that… I used to be a very cheerful and outgoing person, stress turned me into someone else…
Awww I hope they’ll keep the letters we wrote them Let’s not worry too much about what they feel shall we? Because it’s not like we can control anything anyway. We only can control what we want to do for ourselves. Because we deserve to be happy. Life is too short to dwell in the past, but memories act like a drug pulling us back every time We have to treat it like our old relationship is dead and think it as dating them again, it may take some time but hopefully, we’ll move on far enough to adapt this mindset.
Oh no… sucks that your sister is leaving at the time! But don’t worry I’ll still be here to hear your story , always! I hope that by New Years I’ll make great progress too. I actually hope that I can spend Christmas and New Years with him. Last year I went on vacation with his family during New Years… How can he not miss all our moments?! I’m terrified of whether should I talk to be him about my feelings? Like for instance, at least it seems like there’s still hope now. But the key is since they are the ones to initiate the break up, if we get rejected again won’t it seem like we’re getting treated like a doormat? D: I read online they teach that the key is to get in touch with their emotional side and not the logical side, that means no direct talking about getting back together unless both parties are putting equal effort to save the relationship. But I really want to ask him, if he really choose to move on, would he be very happy if he suddenly saw me in a another’s man arms and giving all my attention as I used to give him? Sometimes you only regret the chances you didn’t take…
I sometimes feel like I wasn’t appreciative enough for everything that my ex did. I really don’t think you can be too thankful, so don’t worry about that! I had depression for my entire relationship but I had learnt to control it some what. For some reason, everything came crashing down a couple of months before he broke up with me. I guess because I had been feeling lonely and had just started my new job, meaning I got to spend less time with him. Unfortunately he had just moved house and I was going to be moving in, but at that stage I couldn’t afford to live with him He really wanted me to move in and didn’t mind that I couldn’t pay for rent or anything. He just wanted me to live there as well, but I felt that wasn’t fair on him since he would be paying all the bills. Now I wish with all my heart that I had just moved in with him anyway. That way I wouldn’t have missed him so much when he went away with his friends on the weekends because I would have seen him during the week.
I believe me and my ex are soul mates as well. He even told me this at one stage. Before I met him I wasn’t even sure that I believed in soul mates. But now I do, and being apart from mine is so difficult and sad. It’s quite scary thinking that we may never be together again. Although I like to believe we will be, I will never know unless it happens. I know what you mean about the silence I wish my ex would talk to me finally!! But at least we have each other.
Yeah that’s a good idea. There’s no use guessing what they are thinking and feeling. Instead we should focus on what we’re thinking and feeling and learn to live by ourselves. I think I’m getting a little bit better although I’m going to see a councilor tomorrow just because I think it will help a bit more to talk about everything again. Maybe help with my growing.
I know what you mean. I’m so scared to bring up my feelings with my ex. Because he may just say no and it’ll feel like all the progress I made was for nothing. Idk. I guess because I have a ‘deadline’ to talk to him about things makes it better because I know he will be willing to sit down and hear me out. He wouldn’t have said anything if he wasn’t willing to talk to me at that time. I don’t think my ex would be happy to see me with someone else. But I don’t want to be with someone else. Maybe not ever. And it’s a huge risk to
- Sorry I just realized I hadn’t finished my reply?
It’s a huge risk to be with someone to make your ex jealous. That’s just not fair!! I feel like even if my ex was with someone else, I really don’t think I could be in another relationship while I’m still in love with him.
‘Sometimes you only regret the risks you don’t take’ I agree. That’s why I told my ex how I felt about him almost straight after No Contact. But nevermind. Now I have all the time in the world to make myself feel better and learn to live without him.
Sometimes we get disappointed because we hoped and expected too much. The fact is… they are not the only ones responsible for our happiness. And doing our tough times, we depended too much of them for that. It just led them into a lot of pressure and well… things started to fall apart then
I know I know it just feel so right to be together… why don’t they see it like we do?? It’s really not easy finding someone who has the same heart as you and building everything together and connect in so many ways. I always believed everything can be fixed and nothing is worse than losing each other but I guess at that moment when they broke up with us, they just don’t see it that way. We should really just appreciate this time apart and be our better self but it’s just so hard sometimes it just feels clueless on which direction to head to. And like you’ve said it’s good that you have a ‘deadline’ actually because yeah like you’ve mentioned , at least you two can talk about things and either way you’ll finally be moving on to the right direction. For me I’ll just let things go with the flow I guess.
How did the trip the councillor go ? Did he/she give you some helpful advice? I haven’t contacted my ex today and he didn’t too. I didn’t get to wish his brother though… but it’s okay what is done is done I’ll go NC for a bit and plan ahead! 
I know that I definitely relied on my ex too much for my happiness when it really wasn’t up to him. He did things because he thought I would be happy and he should have just done things to make himself happy. I really appreciate everything that he did for me and I hope that I made him half as happy as I made him.
I’m still hoping it’ll be okay. And that if it’s meant to be then it will be. If I’m still thinking of him in a couple of years, I may try and get in contact again. Idk.
Yeah it must be hard to not know what to do. I still feel directionless sometimes and don’t know whether I’m doing the right thing going through no contact or if I should hang out with him etcetc. And I don’t know if I’m working on myself enough or anything. But I guess we both have to take things day by day and not think too much about the future.
My trip to the councillor wasn’t too bad. They basically just helped me realize that I have to work on myself because it’s my life and I need to be happy whether I’m back with my ex or not. Then I was in the city with my family and I saw one of his good girl-friends who I have supsected has slept with him or is in a relationship with him. Before my first no contact I asked him about her and he said that he would never be with her because she’s crazy (which is a bit mean but I don’t mind because I don’t like her at all haha). So I kinda just have to take his word for it. When I saw her I felt really, really angry and like I was going to throw up. It was definitely a shock. I’m wondering if she text him to say that she saw me I really hope she doesn’t mention me or if she does, it makes him miss me. I wanted to text him a silly remark about seeing his ‘charming new girlfriend’ but that wouldn’t go done well and I’m still doing no contact. Now is not the time to start throwing accusations and assuming things.
After we had left the restaurant where I saw his friend, my family went food shopping so I stayed in the car with my dog and just thought about things. I was sad but mostly I just missed him sooo much and wanted to remind him of some good times that we had. It was really tough and I really miss him but idk I still feel like there’s still a connection between us and there always will be. I know you feel the same about your ex and I really hope that you find a direction to keep you moving forward <3 good luck with no contact.
(I meant half as happy as he made me! Obviously haha)
I just spoke to my friend about it and he didn’t deny that they were together but I’m sure it doesn’t mean anything ://// gulp there are a few friends that I think would say something if he was with her, but maybe they’re keeping it from me so I don’t get hurt. I’m not sure. At the moment I’m just assuming things completely.
I also asked my ex after nc if he was ating anyone or has a crush to which he said no
I am really not sure if he was honest!!!
when i talk to him he gets excited but after sometime when begins to realise the connection he becomes distinct
today when i reminded him of a great time we had he responded in a positive way
But he became someone different after tha.i dont know if i shoild stop it or continue like this
I love him a lot so i knw i cant be his friend
I’ll end up everything at once so really dont know if i should try or not
I want to know how he feels
If he is avaialble to get commited to me again.
Sometimes i feel that he wants that to but his ego is coming in his way
And sometimes i feel that he seriously has no feelings for me
Yeah that’s exactly what I did too I feel as I became insecure, he started to do things to make me happy. I was just desperately want to spend time with him and it end up making me feel like he’s forcing himself to do so. It was always like that at all! I used to be very cheerful and confident with myself… I just suddenly grew into someone he didn’t even know. But I guess it wasn’t completely my fault or his fault too. He didn’t try to understand me enough and I was on the other hand putting a lot of pressure on him that he will surely understand and depending on him for my happiness. I didn’t realise this while we’re in a relationship but now I do.
It’s great though that this distance made us start seeing a lot of things more clearly If only we could turn back time… but sadly life doesn’t work that way haha 
Ohh what breed is your dog? I LOVEEE DOGS! Reminds me of a stray dog that me and my ex rescued together He loves dogs too like I do.
Omg it must have sucked to see that girl… I got the exact same feeling. My ex has a huge crush on this girl for YEARS before he met me. And that day I accidentally went into his account and saw that he texted her and basically had a conversation with her. He was trying to make contact with someone that he havent talk to in so long but he cannot make an effort to talk with me?? She has a bf btw…but I guess maybe that’s what your ex have done too Not sure if they’re in a relationship or not but they definitely did contact each other? I wonder if my ex is trying to date someone or whatsoever… well I wished him ALL THE BEST for finding someone who would love him like I do =.=
Don’t worry to much alright. It’ll probably be a rebound anyway. But if they can replace us so fast with someone else then they seriously don’t deserve us at all. We should stop assuming things that are out of our control. Moreover it’ll only hurt us and slow down our healing process. I too believe we still have a connection, but sometimes I’m just clueless on what to think or hope. And hey you definitely did made him the happiest guy alive before my dear! Trust me your ex did appreciate everything you both shared together or else he wont even want to say to talk on new years. We just have to let them be and time will prove everything. Of course we must keep moving on!
Go hear some nice music if you want! 'Moving On - Kodaline ’ is on my playlist now haha. It speaks to my heart…
sri - I have no idea how your ex is feeling :(( I wish I could say that you should just ask him but sometimes that’s way too scary and you may not want to hear what he has to say. I really wish I could contact my ex. It’s not even just because I’m doing no contact, I just feel like he doesn’t really want to hear from me? If he did, then he would contact me, surely? I’m still feeling as though I should probably give up and move on, but I don’t want to because I love him so much and I don’t want to just give up on him. But if he wants me to, then I will. I’m just not sure what he wants!!! Every morning I check my phone and get disappointed that he hasn’t text me I think it’s starting to become a problem. It’s not that I expect him to, I’d just really like it idk.
Moonbunny - I agree. It’s kind of lame that we both realize these things AFTER our relationships are over I wish I had seen these things while we were still together and I could’ve worked on the things that were making him feel drained and unhappy.
My dog is a cairn terrier like Toto from the Wizard of Oz She’s sooo cute. It’s her birthday on Monday so she’ll be 1 year old!! My ex really liked her as well. When he came to talk to me last he was sad that she wasn’t at home.
I know that my ex has hung out with the girl I saw. I have no idea if they’re in a relationship or not. They probably aren’t. But I got scared thinking of what he may have said about me. Or if she would’ve seen me and then told him that he was right to dump me or something I don’t know. It was mostly a shock to see her. She was the last person in the world I wanted to see. LOL that’s how I feel as well. I feel like no one will love him in quite the same way as me. Then again, maybe that’s what he needs.
If he is with her it may be a rebound but we have been broken up for 2 months now so I’m not really sure. I’ve just felt so down this morning and I’m not really sure why. Sometimes I stress that I’m the only one that feels a connection between us and for him, it is all gone. I seriously cannot wait until it’s finally October and I will hopefully be able to hang out with him. I miss him so much, even just seeing him would be nice. Although I’ve been avoiding places that he goes in our town because I don’t want to see him in public somewhere… I might burst into tears!
Oooh I really like some of Kodaline’s songs so I’ll definitely have to listen to that Music has really helped me. I just wish I could see in my future and know that everything is alright. Whether I’m with my ex, single or with someone else. I just want to be happy :(((((((( Right now, I feel as though I can’t be happy without him and I know that I have to get to a point where I am. I’m going to try and think about him less, as my councillor said that is just like scratching at the open wound
Hey scatteredtracks ! Awww I wished I could see your puppy and give her a hug! Hehe. I love dogs so much but I never get to have one as I’m living in a apartment
I have the exact feeling as you! I’m terrified if my ex is in a relationship or not. And whether if it’s gonna be a rebound since we broken up for more than 2 months already. ;( Yeah I loved him too much maybe that’s even why he left… shyt. But he used to show me so much love too… But ever since we started college everything start tp change… I’ll remember those times always. And I’ll assume it’s just because of change of environment and we would still love each other . And maybe we just need time apart to grow up… Somehow I’m not sure if he feels theres still a connection between us. Feelings are not definite so I hope that we still cross their mind even maybe at the most random times of the day or during midnight when the world is quite.
I believe I would always love him too… even if life really tore us apart and I’m with someone else he’ll still always have a special place in my heart. Yeah I wished I could just see into the future , I’m tired of struggling like this anymore! I have to focus on my studies now at the moment but I just don’t have the motivation… I’m running out of time D: Your 30 days NC ends in October? I’m planning to contact him too in October. But I’m feeling anxious today that he may have moved on? Although it likely won’t happen but I’m so heartbroken if he’s giving another girl his attention… Argh I really felt like I’m scratching an open wound.
I messed up.moonbunny
I asked him about relationship but he said he doenst want any relationship
But he wants to talk
I think i should give up now
I will end everything now !!!
I know that my ex did truly love me. Even weeks before the break up he was so sweet. He came to pick me up from work with some little chocolate hearts for me It makes me sad to remember that now but it was so cute at the time. He told me to stop covering up my face because it was beautiful the night we had our last argument and it kind of makes me smile to think about how much he loved me and how sweet he was - how hard he tried to make me happy. But I’m smiling with tears in my eyes because it just doesn’t make sense that he could stop loving me so abruptly?
I read some where that as soon as you put your ex out of your mind and focus on making your life and your happiness better, the sooner they will come back, if they’re your true love. So I’m going to try harder than ever to stop thinking about him. I’m going to come on here once a day and use that as my only time to think about my ex. The rest of the day I’m going to focus on moving forward and feeling happier. I still want to come on here, so that’s why I’ll use that as my time to think about him.
My NC finishes at the end of this month, but I’m going to leave it for a bit. Last time I did no contact my ex actually contacting me on the last day. So it’d be interesting to see if he does that again. If he does then I’ll think that it’s fate or that he’s doing some sort of No Contact thing as well to give me space! Imagine if that happened!! I need to stop getting ahead of myself and fantasising about these things though.
Yeah I know it’s so hard thinking that they might be with someone else. We just have to hope that they haven’t. I mean, we’re amazing people and there’s no way they could just forget about us so easily! Two months is still not that long.
Sri - What are you giving up on? What has your ex said during the talk? I hope you’re okay. Both moonbunny and I are here if you need anything.
I talked to him about relationship…!!he said he is not ready for any kind of relationship right now…he wants to talk to me but not about relationship…whenever i try to remind him of good memories he builds up his defences…thats why became irritated and asked him what was stopping him …he said he is not interested in relationship anymore !! I dont know how can he stop loving me all of a sudden !!
We were together for 5 years…he made me feel like i wasted my time and emotions on someone who is not strong enough to handle these emotions…if i am a mess he is also the same…thr difference is he wants to hide everything from himself…and i am suffering to handle my emotions…
I have tried so much…now i just dont know what to do !! I feel like giving up…15 days of no contact his answer was same…2months of nc…his answer was same…i dont know why the hell i am trying so much when he cant even think about me